You're hurting me. You're hurting me. I'm here. She called for help, hoping to get her things and leave. Minutes later, she was in handcuffs, sobbing in the back of a police cruiser. Ow. Ow. Put your feet in there. Put your feet in there. There. What really happened on that sidewalk in Ohio? And could it have gone differently? Let's break it down. On February 7th, 2024 in Ohio, police were called to a transitional housing facility after reports of a woman causing a disturbance. When officers arrived, they found her outside, emotionally distressed, but not aggressive. She said she had been robbed, evicted, and now just wanted to retrieve her belongings. From her perspective, she was the victim of theft, displacement, and confusion. But the staff at the facility told a more complex story. They alleged she had made threats, verbally lashed out, and directed transphobic comments toward a youth resident. In their eyes, it was no longer just about recovering belongings. It was about protecting the safety of others. I caught him with Hi. Hello. We just talked last night. What's going on today? Um, they put me out because I got locked. They kicked me out of the building and I want my things back and they won't let me go get my things. Okay. Do you have ID on you? No, the melted in the last house fire that I had. Okay. What's your name? I don't really want to do this. I'm really just trying to leave. I'm trying to be here. I need your information. I don't want to talk to you. Okay. If you don't talk, you're going to sit in the cruiser. What do I have to sit in the cruiser for? I'm not even on their property on the sidewalk. Okay. We're not going to have We're not going to do this. I You're going to give me your information and you're going to have a seat in my cruiser until I identify you. Am I clear? I don't see why. Get off of me. He's grabbing me. Come on. I didn't do nothing like a feminine identifier. [Applause] You're hurting me. Take it off. Take it off. You're hurting me. Okay, we're not trying to hurt you. He is. Get off of me. He is grabbing me maliciously. He is trying to hurt me. You are about to dislocate my shoulder. Stop pulling away. Okay. Cuz you're hurting me. Okay. Stop pulling away. What the? I got robbed yesterday and y'all are arresting me. Okay. Real [ __ ] I know you're being detained, but you're about to watch. Okay. This is not how do this isn't how you behave. Okay. This isn't how I behave. All I'm asking is why I'm being asked questions like I'm the person doing anything wrong. Dude, my phone. My phone. When officers asked her for identification, she refused. She claimed her ID had been destroyed in a houseire. The officer explained that in order to issue a trespass warning, he needed her name. The woman grew increasingly upset. She questioned why she was being detained, emphasized that she was no longer on the property, and said she was simply waiting for a ride. The interaction escalated as she resisted getting into the cruiser, insisting the officer was hurting her and trying to dislocate her shoulder. What started as a civil conversation had now become a physical struggle. She's a pain. So what happened there? She I don't know. She was pulling away from him or something. Try she's refusing to identify. I don't know. I mean pushing me. Um so long story. So she called you guys again today. I thought I saw a call on the board about that. I I didn't take it but it looked familiar. Um, and then it came up that her credit card was stolen and AirPods and money and just just and she made a report and uh got statements from everyone. But during that she like verbally attacked, made threats towards our staff person, but also um some trans phobic um comments made directly to one of our youth um that we have a zero tolerance for. Bro, this is crazy. What's your badge number? 281. Bad. I can't wait to talk to the commissioner about you. Okay. This is crazy. I asked you to identify yourself. You I wasn't even on Daybreak property. I was on the sidewalk, dude. I wasn't even on day. How? I was on the phone outside not talking to nobody but my phone. They want you trespassed. They want me trespassed cuz I want my things out of my apartment cuz they're taking me out. I just wanted to go get my things. All you had to do was identify yourself. I was on the sidewalk. I wasn't even on their property. I didn't trespass. Sit down. Please explain to me how I'm being Sit down now. Please explain to me. You're going to go to jail. Four. Five. Resisting at this point. Resisting what? I'm just asking you questions. You can't answer the questions I'm asking when you in the car. Why couldn't you answer them on the sidewalk when I was asking you? Because I asked you to identify yourself and I asked you why if I'm not on their property. I'm asking you. I don't want to make you get in the car. If you make me get in the car and you harm me, I swear to God, I'm suing. That's fine. You can sue, dude. I'm just asking you why I'm being trespassed. I am literally just asking you why. All I was trying to do was get my things out. You were causing a disturbance inside. Why was I causing a dist. They asked me to step outside and I stepped outside. What are you talking about? Sit down. When I when you got here, I was outside by myself. Sit down. I'm confused. You can't just explain to me what's going on. You sit down. You literally can't just explain to me what's going on. And I'm not even resisting at this point. You just want to be difficult. I'm not trying to be difficult. I really don't understand. Just because you perceive it as difficulty doesn't mean I am intentionally trying to be difficult. If you seem to get in the car is arrestable. I don't understand what I am being for. Do you want to go to jail? I don't understand why I'm being handcuffed. I don't understand why you guys are here. I just want to go. Explain all of that. I just asked for them to get my clothes. Explain why you're being detained. No, you didn't. Are you going to sit down? So, you're not going to look at the tape to see what disturbance I caused? I can't do anything until you get in the car. Sit down, please. Are you in Sit down or are we going to go to jail? What am I going to jail for? What am I literally going to jail for? Disorderly conduct. I just want my clothes because I'm about to be homeless today. And we can we can work that out, but we're not going to work anything out with you with you refusing to get I was literally calling my ride to leave. I wasn't even trying to stay here. Sit down. You are handcuffing me and I was calling my right to leave. Sit down. Dude, this is crazy. Sit down. Sit down. No, I'm not going to jail, dude. No, I don't want to take to jail. Did you just cut your camera? This wasn't a case of violent resistance. It was the intersection of stress, trauma, and systemic misunderstanding. The woman explained that she had lost her home in a fire. She was trying to retrieve her belongings before becoming homeless again. She had asked for police to help her avoid confrontation. But the situation from her viewpoint had flipped. Instead of support, she felt accused, restrained, and unheard. Jeez. Meanwhile, officers were trying to deescalate a situation that they viewed as non-compliance and verbal aggression. Both sides misunderstood each other's intent. And by the time handcuffs were involved, emotions had reached their breaking point. She began sobbing and shouting from the back seat, making desperate and painful cries, spiritual, angry, and full of emotional exhaustion. I'm literally waiting on my lips. I don't see why I need to be identified if I'm leaving the go to jail. I don't understand. No, I'm I'm I'm talking to you. Why can't you understand? Cuz I've already explained it. No, I'm not understanding. I'm telling you that I was on the curb waiting for my lift. I'm not even on their property because the sidewalk is not daybreak property and you came to trespass me on property that I wasn't even on. Please explain to me. It doesn't matter. How does it not matter? You want your trespassed? How does that matter? I understand. You have to identify yourself. But to be trespassed, you have to actually be on the premises. I was not on the premises. It's not how it works. I wasn't on the premises. I wasn't on the premises. Sit down. I only And I'm the one that called y'all. I had them call y'all so y'all could escort me to get my thing so that it wouldn't be a problem. The only one that called if you called. I'm the reason why they called. I asked them to call. You're the reason why we why why we got called. I don't like the tone that you're talking to me with. Like I'm a problem or something. Dude, it doesn't matter. You are definitely a problem since I got here. How am I a problem? I was simply asking you questions and you tried to dislocate my shoulder. Sit down. No, dude. And now you're trying to do it again. No. Now you want to press the button like you're being civil with me and you're not being civil with me. What button? Whatever button you got your finger on. Oh, nobody's pressed the button. Well, please let me go. asked you many times to get in the car. And I don't understand why I have to get in the car. If you're not taking me to jail, why am I getting in the car? At this point, you're probably going to go to jail. For what? Disorderly conduct. Disorderly conduct. Resisting arrest. Resisting arrest of what? I've already explained all this. I haven't committed a crime. You definitely committed a crime. What was the crime I committed? I've just said that. Resisting arrest. Arrest of what? What am I being arrested for? Disorder of conduct. How to identify? Failure to identify when I wasn't on the premises and I was about to leave. Doesn't matter. I don't see how that doesn't matter. That matters quite a bit. I'm trying to help you out. No, you're not. You're not explaining anything to me in a calm manner. Many things many times. No, you haven't. You're not actually explaining. Are you going to identify yourself? Can you take these cups off of me, dude? No. Then what am I identifying myself for? If you can't compromise with me, what am I compromising with you for? You could be trespassed. So that I can be trespassed. I don't even care about being trespassed. I just want my clothes. I just want my clothes. Can y'all go get my clothes? I'll comply if I can have my things. What's that? Yeah, I I I never It's literally just me trespassing. yourself and all that. I was leaving. I had somewhere to be at 6:00. I was leaving. My lift is on the way. I wasn't about to be here. Are you going to identify yourself or are you going to jail? Can I do it with him? No. I can't do it with him. I'm standing right here. I understand you're standing right here. Can I get my notepad out? Will you give me your name? Yes. Okay, let me if he can get his hand off of me cuz that's unnecessary. I understand y'all got to do the good cop, bad cop, but like this is unnecessary. There definitely is. What's unnecessary is you going to jail over you just not getting your name. No, it it definitely is. is and he's the one trying to put me there. So So what's your name, ma'am? Can you let go of me? Just what's your name? Can he let go of me? What's your name? Can he let go of me? He's hurting my arm. Can he let go of me? He's not hurting your arm. He is hurting my arm. How telling you right now, we're not we're not giving any more warnings. Here's the thing. You are either going to give me your name and your birthday as required by law. Or you're going to jail. Jail for what? For failing to identify. That's illegal. Yes. How? Okay. You want to You know what? We're not going We've been through this. No, we haven't. You haven't explained to me how it's illegal to not tell you my name if I wasn't on the premises that I'm supposed to be being trespassed. You're being I understand that. I understand. Are you going to give me your name? Yes or no? Yes or no? I just want to have an understanding of what's going on before I do it. Once I put my notepad away, then then it's then you just want to jail. So you guys really aren't going to give me an understanding of what's going on here. I understand I'm being trespassed. I get that. So I need your name to trespass you. I understand that. My issue right now you don't go to jail over being trespassed. I just have a messed up shoulder and a bruised up arm. From what? From him. Are you alleging that there was force used against you? Yes. Okay. Well, sit down. We We got to call Sergeant now. Sit down. Sit down. Or you're going to be put in the car. Okay. And I'll copy more force. Sit down. Get your feet in. I'm sitting down. Put your feet in there. That's all you all requested was Put your feet in now. Now I'm requesting you to put your feet in. The woman was ultimately charged with criminal trespassing and resisting arrest. But the real takeaway isn't in the charges. It's in the missed opportunity. Had the situation been approached with clearer communication or traumainformed strategies, the outcome might have been different. This case raises important questions. Could better deescalation training reduce unnecessary arrests in emotionally charged situations? How can officers better identify mental health struggles in real time? And how do we support vulnerable individuals without compromising public safety? There were no winners in this case, only the uncomfortable realization that both sides were doing what they thought was right, and still it wasn't enough. What do you think? Should the woman have complied earlier, or could the officer have approached the situation with more empathy? Share your thoughts in the comments. And if you value breakdowns that go beyond what happened to explore how and why, be sure to like and subscribe for more thoughtful real life encounters. God, burn it all down. Cuz I haven't done anything. Burn it down. God, burn it down. Consent with us. Consent with me. You said businesses is mine taking. I can't. I can't. My arms hurt. My ribs hurt. My hip is bruised. This ain't fair. I don't never do nothing to nobody. I mind my business. I'm quiet. I'm respectful. I may not say things people like, but I say what needs to be said. And now because of it, I'm in the back of a police car. All of this because I wanted my clothes. Because I was told I was homeless after getting off work. even their ride along. God, ruin her life from this moment on. Let everything she touch fall apart. God, let everything he loves he lose. God, let his wife, let his children be God, let his cars break down. Let his job short his pay. Let his taxes take all his money. Let Bailey on spot, God, let her be like Lot's wife when she looks back at me. Let her be strucken with illness. Do not speak to me. I do not want to talk to you. I want to talk to the sergeant. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me with your little self. You need to feel empowered. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Do not speak to me. Hi, I'm Sergeant Staples with Dayton Police. You asked to speak with me? Yes, ma'am. Okay. What's going on? Um that officer 281 tried to dislocate my shoulder and they yanked me across the back of this thing. He hit my hip and my rib cage on this here and he's bruised my arm. Okay. And all I wanted to know was why I was being trespassed when I was the one that requested y'all to come. I asked them to have the security guard call y'all so y'all could escort me upstairs to get my things because they think I'm a danger to the building. That's the only reason y'all are here. I was trying to handle things the proper way. Okay. So, when they asked you to leave, did you walk out or? Yes, I told them to call y'all so that they could take me upstairs to get my things. I had a ride on the way. I was on the phone with my father so he could come collect me and my things and that's when he yanked me up. Okay. Did he ask you to leave before he yanked you out? No, I told him I could leave without getting my things. Okay. Okay. How long you been staying here at Daybreak? Two months. Two months. Okay. My house burned down. Okay. All right. Um, and the only reason why I can't go back inside is cuz their person robbed me last night. I met officer 281 last night. He was here when I got robbed. Okay. The only that's the only reason why I'm being put out because I I told dude that he needs to give me my stuff back or it won't be good for him. And they considered that a threat. Okay. And the threat was you me calling the police. That was the threat I meant. I wasn't going to do nothing to that man. I'm a whole school teacher. Okay. I wouldn't harm nobody. You said you're a home school teacher. No, I'm a school teacher of special ed children. I wouldn't harm nobody intentionally. I wouldn't do nothing to mess up my future. But your police officers had me in the back of the car in handcuffs for no reason. I wouldn't have I wouldn't have been against giving my name. I just wanted to know why I was giving my name to be trespassed if I wasn't even on their property. I was by the curb. I was waiting on the curb for my father cuz I know I can't be on property if I'm being trespassed. But again, when an officer has given you a lawful order, it doesn't matter if you agree with said lawful order or not, you still have to provide that, okay? Because he was here doing an investigation, okay? All he had to do was tell me because they were question. If he would have told me what it was for, I would have complied. I have no my dad is a whole sheriff. I don't have nothing against police officers. I just wanted to know what was going on. Okay? I got anxiety. Stuff like that is important to me. I just wanted to know what was going on. Okay. All right. Hang tight for me. Okay. All right. We're just gonna switch cars over here. Okay. You mind stepping out for me? Can she be the one to do it? Just We're We're all going to be here. Come on. Sergeant Staples, can you be the one to do it? Listen, you wanted me earlier. Okay. And you held my legs as he dragged me across the backseat of this car. To get in the car, sir. I sat down. I was going to turn myself. And you didn't have to have him drag me across the car. You could have just turned my legs for me. Sergeant Staples, can you please move him? He's making my anxiety bad. I can breathe. Can here. Can we Can we step out, please? Come on. Come on. I do have to grab you right here. Okay. We're just going to walk right back there. Back there. I'm sorry. The woman Sergeant Staples arrived and listened. The woman explained that she was a special education teacher, that she had no criminal intent, that she just wanted to know why she was being trespassed when she believed she wasn't even on private property. Her anxiety, she said, made it hard to follow commands without first understanding the situation. She wasn't refusing to cooperate out of malice. She just felt scared, confused, and overwhelmed. And the officer's direct tone made things worse. At that moment, the deeper issues became clear. This wasn't about resisting arrest. It was about the gap between how systems operate and how people in crisis experience