I mean, I just took a hanger and I just smacked I swung like this and I hit him across the back. That was it. >> No, we were just arguing and she picked up a hanger and right across my back. >> On March 10th, 2025, inside what appeared to be a quiet home, a marital dispute erupted into something far more serious. After more than 35 years of marriage built on years of tension, accusations, and unresolved conflict, the relationship reached a breaking point. >> Hi, how are you? I'm Jen. >> Hello. We don't need to shake hands, that's fine. What's going on? >> So, my husband >> Where is he right now? >> He's in my bedroom, where I work from. >> Okay. All right, come over here. >> That This is not me. This is cupping on the back of his back from the therapist. >> smack Hanger mark? Did you smack him with a hanger? >> Because >> Doesn't matter because >> I went and delivered something that he was supposed to deliver to his friend. >> Come over here. Come over here with me. I'll talk to you soon. >> and I I've got a list of it. >> How do you want? Sorry, I couldn't hear you. Is the dog locked up? >> Yeah, he's locked. >> Okay, what's going on? >> running. >> This one's running, okay. >> No, we were just arguing and she picked up a hanger and right across my back. >> Okay. >> I've had cupping done, so that's >> Yeah, yeah, yeah, I recognize that. I recognize the cupping. Right here? >> Yeah. >> Okay. >> Right with the right across my back. >> What were what were you guys arguing about? >> Marriage. You know what it is. She cheated on me a few weeks ago. That was fine. Just kidding. >> Okay. No problem. Um >> [sighs and gasps] >> Just Just marital argument, I mean? >> You know what it is, man. But you can't hit. You know? And she hit me. I'd like to file charges. >> Okay, I'll talk with the other officer. I know. >> It doesn't matter what names were called or nothing. He ended it. >> What did she hit you with? Is it a hanger? Oh. A metal one or a a plastic one? >> She stabbed me. >> That one? >> Yeah. Feel it. >> Okay. Okay. Okay. What's your first name, sir? >> Alfonso. A L F O N Z O. >> A L F A L A? >> No, A L F. >> Oops. A L F. >> O N Z O. >> O N Z O. Do you got a middle initial? >> L. >> And what? >> S A L. G A D O. >> What did you and Alfonso do things right in the past? >> Uh n- n- nothing violent. >> Nothing violent? >> No. >> Okay. So this is kind of stirred up after the infidelities or >> Yeah. >> Okay. >> I confronted her about it and she denied it. Horrible names being called back and forth and >> What are you guys going to do? >> I'm going to get out of here. But I want her arrested first. >> Like I said, I'm dealing with you. So. >> I didn't not touch her, so. >> Okay. >> I was laying in the bed. She got mad and I told her She didn't make me and she went to get the scissors. Instead, she came at me with a knife to the door. Stabbing me at at me with it. And I put a pillow. She shredded it. >> I'm going to give you one of these cards cuz we got to do this. Have you ever been given one of these before? >> No, we didn't. >> You take a picture of it with your camera phone. And it'll show up a fake website. It'll show up like meditate. Like and you want to do sign up for classes. Basically, if you want to apply for how to get an order of protection and domestic violent rights. So let me let me find out what the other side of this is. >> house is in her name, but I pay the bills. >> You guys are married, right? >> Yeah. >> It's I mean, legally married? >> Yeah. >> Okay. Well, I mean, it's marital property. >> So, I could stay here and she could leave? >> We can't kick anybody out. I mean, that that's something, you know, if you wanted to go after an order protection, you could do that. The order protection could remove her. We we can't. You know, so You have to go out to the county and do that. You have to go in front of a judge, basically. Yeah, like I said, just don't lose that. Well, at least I mean, hate to say it, at least you guys have got a maybe a plan. A lot of people don't even have a plan. And this goes on for months and months and months and >> You know, cuz she started hitting me before and then it got worse and worse and worse. And like I said, she came at me with a knife. You know, attacked me when I was sleeping. >> A what? >> A knife. >> A Oh, a knife, okay. >> She attacked me when I was sleeping one time, cut me in the face. >> You guys, how long have you guys lived here? >> 20 years. >> 20 years, okay. >> 22 years, almost. >> Okay. Let me go out and talk with him, okay? >> And >> So, what's going on? >> Okay, so he wanted me February 15th, his friend he was supposed to go and deliver something to his friend. I went and took care of it. By the time I got back, I was the guy went to open the door cuz he was getting something from his truck for me. He was talking to me about a bug he had that he could fix for my daughter who's down at college. When he went to grab the the doorknob, he tweaked his neck or he made a thing like his neck was hurting. I'm like, "Dude, what's wrong?" He's like, "Oh, I got a pinched nerve." I'm like, "Sit down, you know, when we came back." And I said, "Sit down, let me let me rub that out for you." Well, I'm this big I slept with him cuz he tells me ice got the Oh my god, I've got it all in my texts of what >> Okay, but what what happened today? >> So, today I walked in, I was outside talking to my friend. He'd been sleeping all day. Please tell them to shut the lights off. I mean, at least the sirens. So, I come in. I'm sitting down there at work. Let him in my driveway. He knows right here. >> where we are. He knows where we are. >> Huh? >> He knows where we are. I need to >> No, I was just saying you could pull right here in my driveway. That's all I was saying. I wasn't trying to be rude. >> Let's Let's continue on. >> so I'm in there and he's talking to his friend, his girl, {quote} {unquote} friend who's a girl. And then he's like, "You're such a You're You're a [ __ ] You spread your legs for anyone. All it takes is for you to have a few drinks and you [ __ ] anyone." And then I started slapping my crotch and I said, "You're right. I [ __ ] anyone." You're a liar. You're a sick bastard. And then he just kept running his mouth. >> You could go right Well, my kitty might not like it. You want to just yell through the front door? Call him L. And I couldn't take it anymore. I'm like, "Shut the [ __ ] up. Stop saying to me." I'm sitting at my desk working. I was on the phone with my boss saying, "I'm going to jail. I got to punch out before I go to jail." And I I couldn't take it. I just said, "Shut the [ __ ] up." And I just took a hanger and I just smacked I swung like this and I hit him across the back. That was it. It's just I've got it all here. I I talked to my brother-in-law who's a Berwyn cop. He's like, "Jen, he even told me to strangle myself fake charges against him." I said, "I'm not >> He's over here. >> He's on the side over here. >> his head up. >> I said, "I'm not doing that. I won't do fake charges. But the mental abuse has got to stop and he won't stop. This is my home. It's in a land trust to me and he won't leave. His brother has welcomed him in >> What's his relationship to you? >> He's my husband. >> So, husband. >> 35 years we've been together. >> Well, you know >> And he thinks I spread my legs for anyone. We have four kids. We raised five. And I didn't sleep with anybody, but I've been accused of it for the last 20 years and I can't take it anymore. It's I'm just done with this. >> I I can't fix your marriage. >> I didn't ask you to. I don't want to live like this. >> there you go. So, you you have had >> but he doesn't and he's psycho. He's disabled. He Oh my god, I just I just Oh my god. >> So, you've done therapy, you've done counseling, but he won't he won't do it. He won't do it is what you're saying. >> won't do anything. >> All right. Well, if he's not willing to work on the marriage, then isn't it over? >> We've already filed for the divorce. We asked the attorney for a 90-day separation. He was supposed to leave. He didn't leave. And he refuses to. And it's my house. It's in a trust to me, not him, to me. So, my brother-in-law, who's a cop, said "Jen, people do it all the time. Put marks on yourself." I'm not doing that. I'm not putting fake fake >> Okay, so a little disturbing that a cop is telling you to do that, but >> Well, he said, "What else are you going to do, Jen?" He's not going to leave. >> Divorce him and leave. >> He should leave. I live in my house. >> Nobody's ever Your brother-in-law didn't bother explaining it to you the whole out order of protection thing? You can get an order of protection based on mental and physical abuse. >> I said. >> So, why did So, you could have got an order of protection and got him out of here. Orders of protection would have banned him from this house, banned him from you. It's called a stay-away order. That's would have been the way to take care of this and get him out of the house while the while the divorce proceeds. I don't know what your brother-in-law Berwyn cop is saying, you know, put marks on yourself. I mean, that's ridiculous. I know you wouldn't do it, but it's it's appalling that he would even say that. >> I mean, it sounded like he has in the past, but I'm not I'm not worrying about that. I just want him to leave. I mean, I've got four kids that I gave birth to and I raised five. They They from 19 to 25. I just can't do this. It's so horrible. And was I wrong? Yes, I was. But I was so >> So this is a continuation of stuff that happened on the 15th. >> 23 days of mental abuse I've been dealing with. >> Because because 23 days >> Because a friend of yours because a friend of yours pinched a nerve and you rubbed them down. >> rubbed right here on his shoulder. >> How did he find How did he find out about that? >> I told him when I came home. >> Okay. That That day on the That day on the 15th? >> Right there. Yes. >> And then he automatically went into you're cheating on him, you're you're all this. And then how long has this been going on for? >> 23 days. >> Why? Why won't he let it go? What What What sets him off? I don't understand what sets him off. >> up. >> Like today? >> up yesterday morning and I was told what a [ __ ] I was at 6:00 a.m. cuz he hasn't slept. He's up 2 hours in 48 hours. >> Okay. Is Is he Does he drink? >> Yes. >> So he's an Is he an alcoholic? >> I don't know. >> Okay. >> I mean I think anyone who drinks Does he drink daily? Yes. >> What does he drink? >> Beer usually. Sometimes >> So today So he hasn't been drinking anything. So today So today he woke up and while you're working So what time did you wake up? Just a little while ago? >> Yeah. 1:30 maybe. I was on my phone with my friend. Let's see. >> So you He wakes up, you're working, and he immediately starts in on you? >> He woke up about 1:15, maybe 1:20. >> Okay. And he immediately started in on you about you being a >> in the back and talking to her on the phone because I just needed someone to vent to. >> Yep. >> I mean I've got a I just made last night. I got up at 12:30 in the morning. And for some reason I had this feeling of just God loves you. Why does God love you? So I I all the things why God loves you. And then what does God say about you? And I wrote all the things down, but then right next to it is what does L say about you? And all the nasty things, so I can remember and I And not that I can remember, it's so I know not to give in. I mean, we've been together 35 years. >> Yeah. >> Since we're 17. I asked him to leave. He was supposed to go to his brother's, and he won't. >> And he's going So So again, he's going He wakes up, he starts in on you immediately. You're at your desk working or whatever. >> I got up at 6:00 a.m. >> And he started started yelling at you about how hard you just couldn't take it anymore and you I'm sorry, did you hit him with a coat hanger? >> the hanger off my my thing and just just swing it at him, but he was laying there. And yes, I hit him once. It wasn't like it was multiple times. Have I done bad things in the past? Yes, I have. When I was a really bad alcoholic, yes, I have. But I stopped drinking like that. I stopped taking mixing my Xanax with drinking and I just can't take it anymore. >> That's a positive move. That's That's what you should never mix. >> I'm doing a lot better. >> Cuz I was blacking out from it. Yeah, exactly. >> Okay, can I get my stuff? >> Can I log out of my computer? All right. Is this >> Is this working? What's that? >> Your marriage. >> Oh, no. >> Okay. >> Does it look like it's working? >> Well, >> Did you take a picture of that by the way? >> I did not. I can. >> I'm just checking. >> Go ahead and Wait, face me first. The other one The other marks are coffee marks. >> Yeah. >> Okay, now turn around. >> Just this one right here. >> Move forward, please. >> Forward. >> Step Take a couple steps forward, please. >> There you go. Yeah, I got to get you. >> I'm going to put Okay. >> What happened? >> We were just arguing. I was laying on the bed. She didn't like what I said. Stood up. came at me, picked up a hanger, and hit me. >> Cuz it sounds like she's she tells me she was working. You woke up, you came at her, you started calling her >> What do you mean I called her names? >> You called her a >> did say that. >> Yeah, calling her over something that happened on February 15th. >> Right. >> And then she lost her temper and hit you with it. >> Exactly. >> Was that the goal? >> The goal? >> Yeah, were you trying to get her to hit you? >> No. Dude, you should have heard what she was saying to me. You're only hearing one side of the story. >> Okay, what was she saying to you? >> She was saying I'm a psycho, a narcissist, um all kinds of names she was calling me. Yeah, she did it. She's saying, "Yeah, just like you did it." It's just going back and forth, man, you know? I mean, she's called me a portable names. And I think it was her goal, honestly, cuz all I said to her was, "I don't appreciate you yelling at me to wake me up." It's all I told her. >> You want her arrested? >> Yeah. >> Going to go to court? >> Yeah. >> Do you run him? Oh, no, they're they're both clear valid, right? >> Totally so. >> I got his info. >> You can run me all you want. There's nothing on me. >> Of course we're running you. We run everybody. >> After she hit me, I called my brother, who's a Berlin cop. I said, "What should I do?" He said, "Call the police." Call the police. I said, "You sure?" He's like, "Yeah, she can't be hitting you." >> There's a weapon right there. >> The hanger. >> Um it'd probably be best if you would just leave jewelry here. >> Okay. >> I mean, bring as little as possible. That way there's no way we can lose it, no way county uh the county deputies can lose it. Um the cigarettes, you probably want to >> outside. The cigarettes what? >> The cigarettes you're going to want to keep here because if they come to county, they're going to throw them out on you. >> Yeah, she really thought that was the over this. I think it was her goal. Because by the time I woke up >> Because of where we >> schedule printed >> Okay. >> Why would he ask that though? >> I I I I I don't know. So, so long as you're willing to go to court because you know, that's without you we have no case. >> Right. >> So, um court and and we're talking about that's down the line. That's not for >> I thought you guys pressed charges if there's signs of a wound. >> We we can, yes, but you still have to appear in court. You're still going to have to go out to Wheaton eventually because we're not going to we we you're the one that was here. We can't testify to what happened before. So, I mean that's what I'm saying that that you >> I think it was her goal because by the time I woke up she had schedules printed out already. And she started hanging them on the wall saying, "I'm not done [clears throat] with you anymore." I was still sleeping. She had those printed up already like she was ready to go. >> Uh you guys are going to have to figure out something. >> I was going to say, I can't get in people's minds. >> Well, you asked me. >> So, I know. But I >> If that's the goal, I mean >> If the goal was to get her to attack you. >> No. >> That's what >> That's never the goal. >> That's >> I don't understand the question. >> Sometimes people will antagonize somebody else to get them >> Exactly. That's the point. That's what I was getting at. >> Can I do it in front or do I have to be in back? >> Has to be in back. >> Okay. >> If I had a transport >> put me in back or you could put them on afterwards. >> Okay. >> Ooh. You guys need some cushions back here though. >> Yeah. Well, you know why we don't? Because people puke. >> I can't do this though. This is really hurting my wrist. That's okay. Put me in the back. >> Okay. >> fine. >> I'll get you there quick. >> I'm going to lean like this though if that's okay. >> That's fine. Yeah. Okay. >> Thank you. >> Yep. Come. >> Okay. Thanks. Thank you. >> Just face the wall to the left. >> The what? >> To the left here. Face the wall. Female employee of the department conduct that search. >> Okay. >> Let me get these off of you. Okay.