on September 4th
2024 Florida police responded to a
domestic violence call in which a woman
reported that she and her boyfriend had
been involved in an altercation on their
boat are you Amanda yeah what's going on
I don't know my boyfriend just me for
the past two days and I tried to leave
the house today and I come back and it's
just he just wants to constantly be
a I mean he threw stuff this morning
it's just like he's been super irritated
I can't be around him with without him
flipping and then I come back from
Dollar Store and going to the Botanical
Gardens and stuff and I come back and
he's just laying there and then I'm
trying to put something on in the
bathroom and he just about the door the
whole time about the heater and the Heat
and the air on the boat and then just
like he just wants to yell at me over
everything and so he's laying there on
the bed and I just sprayed water on him
because he pissed me off what did you
use to spray water on was it like a
sink water okay did you have it like in
your hand and you threw it or was it in
a cup or no it was in the thing cuz it's
right next to our bed what thing to the
hose you have like one of those hose
things okay so you got the hose attached
to your sink okay so he sprayed water on
him while he was in bed and then he
flipped out through the TV and came at
me and then he's like tell me you love
me tell me you love me and I'm just like
I don't love you if you're being a I
can't do this okay um
you guys live together on the
boat is who owns the boat is it in both
your names it's in my name but he's paid
for half of it but it's registered to
you yeah okay um how long are you guys
married or just dating we've been
together for a year a year and um so you
live together so you've been together
for a year do you have your ID on you
real quick has he left since you've
called us no he's still on the
boat and I took his phone because I
didn't know know cuz then he calls
someone and then he disappears and I
don't know
so okay all right
so after you sprayed water on him what
specifically did he do he jumped up
threw the
TV uh TV's on the bed uh then he decided
to go into the V birth and P like a
child
and and I was like at the
boat I'm not putting up with this today
so did you tell our dispatchers that he
grabbed
you can you tell me about when and then
how he grabbed you he just came at me
like here it wasn't necessarily choking
me but it was just sort of a quick thing
so did he push you did he grab your neck
or your throat what what did he
specifically like he just grabbed me
here and pushed me against okay was your
breathing constricted at all no
okay uh we're over at the starfish 5
starfish 5 there theat uh Joseph Joseph
any weapons on that boat no okay I have
his phone in case he's asking for why do
you have his phone huh why do you have
his phone because I was scared he going
to call someone and run away okay yeah
I'll be over there in just two seconds
guys you want to give this to him just
hold on since you already have it for
now I just I don't know what to do I
don't know what to do this has happened
all right so all right let me go ahead
and put your purse down for me real
quick I do have to take some
pictures um can you show me your hands
straight out there my hands I know I
still have the document okay do you have
any this scratch from is that's like
simple from me just a picking okay um
any scratches bruises or anything from
anything else okay it was just sort of
like
I just wanted to leave before things got
chaotic because it does tend to get
chaotic did you at any time besides the
water did you hit him push him or
anything like that no during okay all
right give me two seconds just going to
move and say something e leave just have
a seat there in the shade for
me all right I'm coming in Joseph Joseph
Joseph can you come out please talk to
us
oh God how's it going not great yeah we
got to talk to you because she's saying
you two got into some sort of argument
come home twice do you have any weapons
in there no weapons for our safety can
you step right here and talk to us on
the on first oh yeah sure of
course come home twice she threw her
phone at me her keys at me while I was
sleeping and then I thre to call the
police and she stole my phone and ran
off okay she's got my phone and
everything come and step right you have
your idea with you my wallet I W yeah
sure grab your
wallet done this three times and last
time she threw a lamp at my head okay so
why didn't you call us when she does
stuff she took my phone no no you said
before I she said she wouldn't do it
again and we make up you know what I
mean you okay that was my debit card man
I'm not a good way guys this needs to
end she can't feel like she can call
people and tell them that I'm homeless
this is my house I pay rent I'm over it
man she has family in town you know what
I mean I have nothing of course so so
how long have you guys been dating a
year a year okay yeah man I picked her
up in the Bahamas it's gone I mean it's
it's a green So eventually you want to D
canel this this a cash card man so it's
just all very irritating you know and
she attacked me man Joseph just tell us
from the beginning today's situation so
I was asleep
um she got up got pissed about something
and left if went to go shopping you were
both asleep we were both asleep I got I
get up at about 7:30 cuz we both work
downtown I get up at
7:30 um I'm sitting there playing on my
phone she gets up um starts yelling at
me that I'm not cuddling her or
something like that I'm on my phone and
then she leaves she goes shopping what
was she yelling at me about not cuddling
her not cuddling her
yes right so this has been a couple
weeks right yeah and then uh so she goes
I put it on my TV I'm texting my my
mates at work cuz I'm the executive chef
at sunset sunset where Sunset water
sports and she she works for me and uh
she she comes back and she's got a bunch
of stuff like groceries and she's in a
fine mood perfect mood uh and then she
starts moving around the boat and
leaving the door open and stuff and
we've got this see on here that we just
got fixed and I asked her to stop and
she just starts yelling and throwing
[ __ ] man I'm laying there in the bed
laying there in the bed she starts
throwing her keys at me she threw a jar
at me uh of those items at this point I
and hit me yeah yeah exactly show me the
mar she threw the keys right there it
didn't it didn't really you know she
just throw them in my general direction
like I'm you know okay and then I grab
my phone at which point she takes my
phone and leaves I told her I'm calling
the cops scre cameras all over here you
know what I mean and she takes my phone
and leaves that's my phone I know I I
was bringing it back to and I've lost my
debit card I so I've got issues right
now okay all right do you have your ID
on you real quick got you have it okay
can I give that back to you I just feel
like I'm being harassed in my own house
and she's been threatening me and I'm
over it the things that have been thrown
around are they still like in the area
where they were thrown her keys and
stuff man I was in bed yeah so I know
that you already told them you just
catched me up since I was last one here
I woke up this morning she was mad she
left she come back in a good mood uh I
asked her to she shut the door cuz she
leaves this door open we just fix the AC
she normally complies cuz it's our AC
you know what I mean and we have spend
money to fix it she'll tell you all this
uh and then she starts flipping out
tells and starts throwing stuff at me in
the bed are you just going to lay in bed
all day it's my first day off after four
on you know what I mean a 13 hour shifts
yes absolutely she you know and she just
keeps throwing stuff at me man uh and
that was it that was my final St grab my
phone tell her I'm calling the cops
she's like you need to leave you need to
leave you got to go and I'm like I'm not
going anywhere I'm calling the police
she grabs the phone and leaves and when
she tried to grab the phone from you
what did you do I said give me my phone
and then she left no no there was some
sort of like I tried to get my grab
tried to grab my phone and she's leaving
out of the causeway then she's like I'm
going to throw it in the water at which
point I'm like you're on Wi-Fi you're on
camera like there's a camera there why
would you do that and she just leaves at
that point I go back to bed was there
any Hands-On pushing shoving or anything
between the two of you besides her
throwing she pushed me a few times man
when I tried to get out of the bed to
get my phone do you have any scrapes r i
mean I'm so hot right now I couldn't
even tell you if I did um can I just for
the sake of documentation I do need to
take some pictures of you real quick
sure um it's just going to be one uh
full face right here and then also just
both your arms like this look there's
blood right there man
from her scratching me this is just
getting really old man and she needs to
know I someone needs to explain to her
this is also my
residence and you guys both live here
together we both live here together yeah
all right you know so throwing stuff is
not an option I don't know what to do
she grabbed the phone out off the shelf
I think cuz I was going for the phone
and she after she sprayed the sink she
turned the sink around and just sprayed
me in the bed okay and that's where I go
for the phone that's what set me off it
wasn't the keys or the jar was the water
in the bed why did she spread you with
water again I don't know I'm laying in
bed and that was what set her off she's
like doing stuff and leaving the door
open so you were sleeping it's your day
off she came home you asked her to shut
the door T came home and then she left
she she left and it came back like she
she knows what's up man she's trying to
in the morning it's just she's going to
persist all day is what's going to
happen she's an
alcoholic uh I don't this is a
continuation of last night when she was
drunk and I went to bed cuz I didn't
want to deal with her did you verbally
say out loud that you plan on calling
the police yes Lots I even screamed it
out here I was like and she took the
phone it's on camera man and she's like
no I going take the phone and she
laughed and she's like I'm calling
police and I'm pretty sure I heard her
calling and she's walking out the dock
you know what I mean okay
like so here's here's what we're
obligated to do in the State of Florida
when there's an issue of domestic which
you guys don't have to be married the
fact that you guys are in a relationship
and you live together it's enough for it
to be domestic I was a paramedic I get
it trust me if we can determine somebody
who is a primary aggressor we're
obligated to make an arrest correct
whether or not you down the line decide
to charges or not with State Attorney's
office that's completely up to you but
right now as of today we're required to
make a choice and make an arrest I
understand based on what you're telling
me right now and based on what she's
already told me it's going to be her I
get it I don't want that to happen I
understand I'm just letting you know I
don't want
she know she's got to know this is going
to happen man after we've been through
this like every couple of weeks man and
it's like I've warned her and warned her
I've never this is the first time
something physical has happened between
you guys
no okay um it's the problem is is that
things like this don't tend to get
better on their own I told her I told
her if she doesn't love me just tell me
man I would l no one I told her to stay
there in the shade right I'll yeah um
okay things like this don't normally get
better on own right it's not
[Applause]
something it's ridiculously
hot so how long have you two been
together a year a year
you work together too he saying what
does he do he works as a chef on the sun
party Pat I work in the office so he
cooks food yeah what do you do I work in
the office ah you work in the office
like do the paperwork and stuff uh
reservations oh okay and you've been
together your say for about a year yeah
and you've lived together on that boat
for a year no we probably two months now
ah you moved into that boat 2 months ago
where did you live before uh we lived
together up in Big
C oh you you before you live together
you just both relocated here to this
boat yeah we were living in big CET and
then we found the boat and then we moved
here all right and this domestic issues
they' happened before or this is the
first time no we fight and it just gets
bad because he shuts everyone down and I
just don't
know like I came back home after a
couple hours thinking
that and he still had an
attitude
So eventually like uh you guys you you
you want to continue being with him or
well how do you see your I just don't
understand why he becomes a sometimes
and when I say I mean it just comes out
of nowhere like yesterday he woke up in
the morning he was just getting very
irritated over very small tiny things
and I could notice it like what like if
something wouldn't shut he'd get real
like you know and I'm like oh I can see
this is going be a bad day maybe he's a
perfectionist you know perfectionist he
likes when the stuff well everything is
like perfect no he got mad at my brush
like walking the thing you know it's
just like everything irritates him and
he's very
like I don't know if he's going to be a
time bomb or not I don't know like if
he's going to blow up today or what what
I don't know what goes through his head
I try to do so much for him doing stuff
and then he says he does this he does
that but I'm like I then I feel like
you're constantly like I'm here punching
bag all the time like I have to pick him
up at work all the time and then he's
just angry and he's
just so from what you're describing to
me this is sounds like pretty toxic
relationship don't you think yeah it
does so you ever considered ending
it I feeling how my relationships have
been toxic one way or
another how long did your previous
relationship last I haven't been with
anybody in a while oh okay so with
Joseph
okay was he like that in the beginning
of the relationship or he changed
through I feel like in the beginning we
were having fun and everything was good
and you know of course I understand the
honeymoon Fades you know after a year
and stuff
but it just kind of feels like I feel
like I'm I'm hated or something I feel
like he's just with me because I don't
know because it's convenient that's how
I
feel all right
so talk to both of you got both your
stories and everything
else
um yeah go
actually can I
see um go and put your hands in get back
yep you're being
arrested why am I being
arrested
basically the deal
is you admitted that you initiated the
physical contact by throwing water and
stuff on him on on that makes you
primary aggressor but at the same time
you also took his phone away from him
which is also illegal when it comes to
domestic violence
issues um you're not allowed to take
somebody else's phone okay they're not
they have to be able to call for help
and everything if they want to
so
um all right so at this point we're
going to put you in my car it's a very
short ride
yeah go around
you have gloves on you I completely
forgot
to what do you want to search now yeah I
to pressing no no doesn't have to in
fact he did he did not want this but
what I explained to him is in the State
of Florida if we can determine a primary
aggressor or somebody who started the
physical contact unfortunately the state
versus charges yes the state insists
that we take action face
the you have any this is a right yeah so
no pockets or anything okay you have
anything that's going to quote me sck
even though he took his phone when he
broke the TV well he damaged my property
it's it doesn't matter he if in the
course of a
domestic again we listen to everything
that
looked we looked at you know you had
phone you take long into consideration
you admitted that you started the
interaction by throwing water on while
bed and you took his phone like I said
people are entitled to the might to call
for help
they 62 at
least all right so that's her i b b um
sorry she gra
bag um Joseph said that this isn't the
first time something fisal has happened
between you two is that correct I'll
tell you exactly what I told him is
these things don't get better on their
own I know so as much as you guys might
care about each other and love each
other if it's already that point I told
him this time it's her next time it
could be him you know
that we can only make you know best
educated decisions as far as primary and
all that kind of stuff but in the end
somebody's most likely going to be going
to jail at the time of a domestic
incident whether it's you or him and if
it's to the point now where people are
going to jail you guys have gotten past
the point where you guys can fix it on
your own you guys are gonna have to seek
outside professional health if you want
it to go forward if you don't if that's
if it's done then you guys need to start
making ways to separate because that's
the only way that this is going to stop
okay that's just that's just the nature
of the Beast we've been out with several
couples who go through this cycle for
months and months and months on end I
don't want that to happen to you guys
right so
how long am I going to be in jail for um
you should have first appearance
sometime tomorrow but I don't know what
time okay you guys didn't even see how
the boat was all torn
apart
well the woman was arrested and charged
with domestic violence if found guilty
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