my bad we'll go with you while you get your stuff how about that every man I've been with has tried to me I'm not negotiating with you beer beer beer beer $20 mhm yeah it doesn't sound like a good relationship bud you what you okay yeah no I'm good M no just need an drink on September 5th 2022 officers responded to a call from a man stating that his girlfriend wouldn't let him leave dispatch also heard the woman demanding him to give her a debit card she says he's the problem but I'll let you be the judge of that let's get into it hey Gordon hey pretty good going on y'all he wants to go buy alcohol with my debit card on Friday the money in account is my name and I'm not buying you beer no more no more beer Brenda can I talk to you out here real quick when this other officer will talk to him no I'm not coming out of the house I know what happens when you come out of the house I watch enough cops oh well you think that's what happens every day I guess Gordon will you talk to me out here so do you guys have like a joint account or something like that or shut up yeah are we all married I don't remember shut up be a was mine I went out in theour I opened the account in 2015 in Florida okay Friday Saturday Sunday beer beer beer beer $20 $20 the money in that checking account is mine I don't even buy myself anything but yet he's always buying alcohol using the debit card and the money in the account right now is mine he don't get money in there until do y'all both deposit your checks in there or what okay so has anything been physical between y'all she no she just doesn't want you to leave yeah okay how many have you had today I can see your eyes are watery and stuff like that well I got whatever upset earlier no no don't okay nothing physical between y'all any threats or anything like that okay so she's just upset about she just get [Music] loud because I'm drive that's my main thing you're just walking up walking up there to the store i' love them to death like anything in this world for him but I'm tired of the you guys ever thought about like getting different go down have you guys thought about like getting different checking accounts and each other's names or like yeah get like account in different names stuff like that for the future he wants to do it but he needs me to go to the bank with them why is that because the account is mainly mine it was mine before him okay so I would have to go to the bank okay but this started last night because he had to run somebody upstairs and everything has went downhill since last night and I'm not doing it I'm not buying him beer no more I'm not buying him cigarettes no more I'm done okay i' love him to death and I do anything in this world for him well could you get a different account just by yourself the account is mine okay I opened it in 2015 in Tallahasse Florida okay and you're not allowed to like just cancel it or put him off of it by yourself yes he has to do we have to go to the bank together okay but you know what you know how hard it is to go to a bank when you're going mhm I I would just suggest you you know I guess that one's already got your name on it does the account have both your names yes it does have both your names on it I mean if this is a if this is a recurring issue for y'all then I would just no it's first time okay say if it comes up again or even as a preventative measure you might want to just open your own account start putting yours in a different one you know I started to do that the other day because they said if uh well stter said I put 25 bucks in open my own account they give me 250 bucks okay and so I started to do that okay so and my brother and both my nephews are all cops okay yeah in Louisiana is um so I think you said you've had a couple beers um has she had anything today she don't do nothing okay is she supposed to be taking something she's not taking what's she supposed to be taking have to empty closet she's I didn't hear what she said she said I I don't do violence so she's the violent one she get okay yall had hands on each other before in the past about stuff she had hands on you no so when you say she's a violent one or I ain't doing it okay I ain't doing it he was supposed to go have his ear fixed I keep tell I'll take you over the emergency room we'll get your ear fixed they won't do nothing with his ear as long as he's drinking can't get him to quit drinking long enough to get anything done he keeps telling me I'm getting a job honey I'm getting a job and getting a job you can't get a job if you're up at 6:00 in the morning drinking it's the same sh over and over and over I get on the phone I'm talking to my family because I'm originally from Pennsylvania I talk to my family and all yeah you're an attention you're a [ __ ] well I get accused of sleeping with this guy over here when you say she wouldn't let you leave what do you mean by that I got I got my backpack filled up other than that like you you were not allowed to leave or you couldn't leave or you feel like if you wanted to leave you could [Music] leave with that being said if I have to put my hands okay well um is that why you called you just I get accused sleeping with the security man security guard okay wanted to let go and and how long y'all been together um it'll be a year and November it be a year in December Donny you don't have to talk to him right now Don how long have you all been living together uh since May May of this year okay so you're not married do youall have any children or anything like that together okay how do you think you guys could obviously get him to quit drinking I'm guessing and stop spending money and get a job right then is ultimate goal that was the ultimate goal was for him to stop his drinking so early in the morning so he can get a job every time it's bad when you get up at 6:00 in the morning and there's beer bottles beer cans sitting on the table next to the bed because he'd rather have beer than do anything else he'd rather have the alcohol than be with me officer Lester might have already brought it up to you uh Miss Brenda but I mean it might be a good idea in terms of just the financial part of it you know I know you guys have both your names on the account what you're what he's saying is that correct count is originally mine both of your names currently are on it right yes I opened 2015 in tallah Housey Florida okay so what I would just suggest is when it comes to the money part if y'all both have your name on it um that's kind of more of a civil thing so I would just suggest that you maybe make a new account I said the same thing to him maybe he can make a new account one of y'all and um or maybe both y'all can put joint money in the joint account and your money in your account his money in his you know it's up to you guys figure that stuff out the main thing is we just want to make sure everybody's feeling safe here okay and I can tell you're obviously you're up here real upset and I heard what you were saying just a minute ago about you know you feel like he's got a significant drinking issue and I don't know if you remember me but I talked to you one time and you said that you were um recovered or in recovery I haven't had anything to drink in seven years yeah and right now I can go for it so that probably makes you feel a certain type of way when he keeps drinking around you doesn't it he just don't care about me if he did he would respect me mhm you know because I asked him not to call me not to call me St not to call me a okay don't accuse me of sleeping with don't accuse me you sleeping back gu because I don't do it when I'm with somebody I'm with that person but yet every time he don't get his way just give me a minute I love him I love him to death if I didn't love him I would to have gave him money when he was in jail I would to helped him pay off his fine I love him more than anything I would do anything for him I'm at the point I'm tired to buy an alcohol especially if you don't if you're not drinking it right why should I keep dishing out money right that's kind of a a thing that you guys are going to have to work out but if he's trying to leave you know what what happened I want the card because I know the more he's out of here he's going to go over here to Wells Fargo and he's going to withdraw money well you can't prevent anybody Brenda out of money rest of month you cannot let you cannot make somebody stop if they're trying to leave unless it's your child you cannot prevent him from going somewhere okay it's a deit card that's that's between y'all to figure out taking money out of my checking account to drink on night okay that's between y'all to figure out though okay do you understand that you cannot prevent him from leaving he won't get his do you mean he can go but he ain't getting anything out of this house I don't think he's trying to leave leave I think he's just trying to go somewhere where he wants to leave that's another thing with Gordy okay every time Gordy gets mad I'm out of here I'm leaving goodbye well you can't if he does that you can't keep him here no he can go but he ain't getting his clothes so when he's trying to leave today what was different I want the debit card okay I have $118 in that checking account right now mhm M okay the other yesterday there was 230 118 230 mhm and we bought a computer okay so did y'all buy a new computer or what that came out of the checking account on the third we paid for that on the third that was a different transaction okay so again down to is All She Wants To Do Is drink okay so if you if you have an issue with the account what I'm telling you is you you cannot let him you cannot keep him here if he's trying to leave and if he's trying to leave let him leave if there's an issue with the account call them shut the card off okay and then if you'all need to separate your money and separate your money can y'all do that or can you do that cuz it's it's going to be a a two-way street y'all both got to work together even if it means you're you're splitting things okay he can't work with anybody it's always his way or the highway all right I'm my foot I'm putting my foot down now so whose way is it if he's trying to walk out the door and you're standing in front of him I want the debit card I want the deit the debit card has his name on it Brenda the money in the checking account is mine and he the morning he leaves here he's going to go get money out the checking account for alcohol I'm not paying for his alcohol anymore I've been doing his since December and I'm tired of it okay so are you going to be able to call them and separate your accounts call the bank and take care of to the bank and they're not open today you can shut the card off from your phone I'm fairly certain no I have to go to the bank you should be able to call them and and do that do you have sell service no yeah I have to go to the bank because I already went through all this fun with the bank I have to go to the bank and close my account and then I have to have him with it to close the account that's than shutting the cards off so I would just call them and ask them about doing that just shutting the cards off okay even if they have to shut all of them off the the account will still be there but there won't be any cards to go with it until you you can go in there and get a new one and do what you need to do but if he's trying to walk off walk this off I mean I understand he's he's done a lot of things that have upset you but if somebody's if you're going to be here continuously yelling at him about the things that you're upset about it's pretty natural reaction for somebody to just want to walk away and it's it's not a bad reaction to have either I'm sure you wouldn't rather him want to fight you about it I'm used to being beat up it don't me no more you don't that's not the way we want it to go okay so if he wants to walk you know walk away and everybody can calm down you should just let him do that you guys got one of my exes in jail now okay for trying to kill me it don't bother me every man I've been with has tried to kill me don't matter okay so that's isue if he's if he's going to leave he you know you can't lock him out either okay you understand you want to bet this jail this place is in my name do you want to go to jail Brenda you will go to jail I promise you that right now if you lock him out he goes he ain't coming back in that's not how it works yeah you can evict him all right then you can evict him y'all have been living here together for how long I don't I don't want him around me no more okay if that's if that's the case look he has equal right to this property unless you're a victim he does if if my landlord told need to put him on the lease and I haven't done it we're not your landlord okay do you understand I'm not letting them back in then you will go to jail do you understand how that works You' be interfering with property okay even if he's not on the lease y'all share this residence okay if you do that you will go to jail I'm not letting back in this is my apartment all right well if that happens you have everything you need right this second all right if that happens call us we'll take care of it okay thanks what do you know as soon as the officer turned his camera off he had to turn it back on who would have guessed that you're not getting any close out of you have a key Miss breno don't do this do you have a key oh yeah okay door's not locked it's not locked can you try to make you yeah you want to open the door here you go I got you oh never mind never mind 5 if you want to try to open the door open the door we'll go with you while you get your stuff how about that you're not getting any clothes out of here stop all right no he's not getting any clothes out of here I'm tired stop you're going to get extra charges if you don't calm down are you happy now no I'm not you need to close your mouth you need to stop I'm tell I'm telling you right now stop get I got her stop got it let me get you know what gy gy you owe me $1,500 and I want out of your next check this is good all you had to do is let him get his stuff out and all I ask some more for that debit card because you know what he's going to do now I'm going to jail and he's going to take my money he's going to take my money right you're going to take my money now right do you have anything you need to take with you Brenda my ID okay where's it at in purse okay you know purse looks like yeah I know come on no let's go Brenda Brenda you don't want to make this harder than it has to be you know what all right Brenda quit no because you don't love me anymore do you you want to look for her purse for us what does her purse look like this is good I'm going to jail he's being you don't want to jail because you didn't listen to what we told you to do yeah it doesn't sound like a good relationship bud is that her purse is this her purse you can do this the right way or we're going to do this the wrong way you chose the wrong way all first of all I didn't invite you into the house so you have no right he did he did he don't can we're going with him to get his stuff and you won't let them get it that's that's a problem no get in the car no get in the car no Brenda if you don't get yourself in the car I'm going to have to pull you in and I don't want to I don't want it to hurt you okay so scoot back in the car okay yeah stop he doesn't seem it is what it is it is I'll try to get out of here man at this point things keep getting worse the officers noticed that she slips out of her cuffs Jesus Christ did you get yeah did she have a purse yeah she want to take that whole thing talk to him for a minute no do you want to take her whole purse I want to talk to him she slipped her cuffs what she slipped her cuffs I'm going to pull her out this side okay or that side no I want to talk to him I told you I no no this isn't how this works you need to you need to stop told I told you I listen if [ __ ] talk to him for a minute I would do whatever you want if I can talk to him for just your op it's not how this works anymore please no I need to talk to him for just one minute no can I talk to you for one minute please can I please talk to you for one minute get over there have a seat put your feet in put your feet into the car we'll lower the window put your feet into the car we'll lower the window I talk to him for one minute put your feet in the car we will lower the window I will if I can talk to him for 1 minute I'm not negotiating with is not a nego I want to talk to you for one minute get in the car I want to talk to you for one minut get in the car can I talk to you for one minute watch your face what do you want to talk to him about I want to talk to him it's personal please okay well you can call him from the jail then please can I talk to him for one please I don't have his to call okay I'll get your you got your phone number all right man so it is Gordon right you justed go by Gordy all right let's make sure well they call me Gord I got you so she may or may not call you um can you get him a can you get him a Bill of Rights or you about to leave yeah I get him Bill of Rights I'll get one I I got it so I'm going to charger with um Criminal Trespass interference with property for not letting you get your stuff and I'm Al going to add misdemeanor obstruction to it okay cuz how she's just behaving right now all right um I can't so because y'all live together yall have in what's in the state of Georgia that's considered a Family Violence relationship okay you're not the one pressing the charges okay the state of Georgia's pressing them all right and that's what I'm charging her with I'll make sure she knows I love you this batch has been I'm sorry honey I'm sorry I love you I can't come back here dispatch has been up Gordy I can't come back here just give me my car okay and I'll leave no I can't Gordy I can't come back here no I can't they're getting me with domestic violence I can't come back here did you I can't come back here I think they just weren't um I think they weren't that tight maybe she popped her thumb out I didn't know I just looked back and Sh had her it my bad don't forget to unlock those before you need them again I just unlocked them I'm sorry yep have a good one sir if you need us call us okay sorry buddy it could be worse you okay yeah no I'm good you mad at me now no just need an energy drink too early all right man you good yeah I'm good now I'm going to sue you cops too because there goes the rest of my money out of my checking account all right Miss Brendon step out for me and come over here to this door right over here to the store wall what's going on have anything on you ma' you going to be able to corporate maybe not you got C on rest over' you don't want to release your hand Brenda you already got an extra charge for struggling with us don't get one here too okay she can slip them if they like that get them pretty close thank you all right thank you so much the suspect was was booked for Criminal Trespass interference with property and obstruction of Leo what do you think about this incident comment below if you enjoyed the video leave a like And subscribe for more