A nightshift officer in Byram, New
Jersey, is assigned to help a female who
was on the side of the road calling for
help. It turns out she would make this
the most miserable night of his life.
>> I tried to go home an hour ago. My phone
died. If one of you try to call my
phone, my dad will literally show. Like
he is on his way here. Like he tried to
come home. My phone died. I tried to get
them to put me to my car because I
obviously am drunk.
>> Show it up. What's going on
What are you yelling for help for?
>> Because I'm trying to wait for my dad.
I'm trying to wait for my dad because I
obviously am drunk.
>> Do you just need a ride home? Yes, and
they're pushing me out of the They're
literally pushing me into the street.
>> Who is? Literally whoever they are.
No, I'm sorry, but literally I'm sorry,
but who are you? I'm sorry. I don't know
you. No, I'm
Let's go. No, because if you charge my
phone, I can hear you.
>> about your phone. I'm asking that what
what What are you yelling for help for?
That I'm trying to go home. Who are you
calling for?
>> My father. If you want my dad's number
>> No. No, yeah, what is it?
What is it? My dad's number? Okay, so my
What's your first name? My name is
Caitlyn.
And I'm in AA, so I can't even
alcohol or anything.
>> So you shouldn't be drinking? No, I
should not
at all.
>> I'm not.
>> You didn't drink? No, I did I did have
one. You just said you You just said you
were drunk. I did have one. Yes, you're
right. And I can tell you why I had one.
>> Okay, come over here. Just lean up
against right here. We have We're
calling your dad, okay? All right, your
dad's phone is going to voicemail. You
call the supervisor. He knows exactly
who I am. Did your dad work for the
police department?
>> Yes. Okay.
>> exactly. He'll know exactly.
>> Okay.
And what's your name?
Patrolman Conklin. It's written right
here. And what's your badge number? Are
you kidding me? 43 What's your badge
number?
>> It's 4328. 20 what? I can't hear you.
>> 20 what?
Say one more time. Just so I got it.
Just so I got it. What's your badge
number?
If you're not going to say it, that's
also a crime if you know that. You know
that. What's your badge number, huh?
What's your badge number? I don't know
your badge number. I'm sorry.
What's your badge number? All right,
ma'am. [music] What's his badge number?
>> Ma'am, we're trying to get you a ride.
>> And what's your badge number?
>> 4328. I gave it to you five times. You
gave it to me three times, actually.
Why are you asking again?
How many years have you been patrolman
on force?
>> Irrelevant, ma'am. It is irrelevant,
actually.
What's your full badge number? I'm
sorry.
>> Ma'am, back off. What's your full badge
number? What's your badge number? I got
to go. Send the local PD.
Sorry.
>> the PD to her address. Okay, thank you.
And it just won't have
a license plate number on it.
Just so you know, her phone's dead. I
know.
If it gets worse, she's going to go for
dispo. So hopefully it doesn't reach
that point.
>> Nope, we're trying not to. She was the
one that went for the Woodford store.
She was the one that went for the
Woodford and went for the store. She
called for the Woodford service. How old
are you?
Okay.
You were supposed to give me a phone
call. Are you both on or not?
>> Okay then, it's a law suit.
>> Is your phone on? It is on, actually.
>> So can you make the phone call? No,
because actually I'm detained under your
guidance. So I'm allowed I'm a citizen.
supposed to make the phone call.
Stop talking.
I've got the audio.
Your phone's dead.
You want to bet? Yeah, you showed it to
me. So you're not reading me my Miranda
rights, so I can go to my car, right? Do
you Do you want your Miranda rights?
>> Yes, I do. You have the right to remain
silent. Anything you say can and will be
used against you in a court of law.
Thank you so much for actually reading
them for me.
>> here. Thank you for actually
>> Stand over here.
>> Thank you for actually reading my
Miranda rights to me because you didn't
You're not free to walk around. Stand
over here. Then you should have read
them to me about 30 minutes ago, right?
>> Oh, crap. Right?
Stand over here.
>> Right? Because I do my I do know my
laws. If y'all want to talk to my dad,
that's fine. We can. Yeah, we can
because unfortunately I live 40 minutes
away.
>> I am aware. So oh boo [ __ ] hoo.
>> Can you please stand over here?
>> in the direct I am I am. I want you by
the car. Come over here. I am in the
direct. If you
actually went to your No, I am in the
direct. Like
I'm not asking you to be in the light.
>> So it doesn't matter. I am in direct.
And if you want to tell them, then they
can go on the back in their house.
>> Ma'am, I'm concerned for your safety. I
don't really give a
I'm concerned for my safety. That's why
I'm standing out here.
>> No, and then you can tell them all to go
back inside then, huh? They have the
right to be standing where they are.
Because I was like
>> Stop walking around.
Stop Am I detained? Am I arrested?
You're detained for your safety. Then
you can No, because then I can go to my
car if you're not going to let me.
Yes, I am because I'm not going to let
me. Then let me go to my car and you can
come with me.
>> You are not free to leave for your
safety. Ma'am, you Stop walking towards
me.
>> car with me. Then you can come to my No,
don't come
DO NOT PUT YOUR HANDS ON ME.
THEN YOU CAN PUT YOUR CAR with me. Like
I have a [ __ ] right TO CALL MY
FATHER, WHICH YOU BOTH KNOW is true, who
is a [ __ ] Passaic County Sheriff
Officer, who I'm sorry, but one of you,
probably not him, you are going to lose
your job. So I would love to call my
father right now. And yeah, you can try
all you want.
>> Can you please stop walking around?
>> Well, I would love to go back to my car,
who I know for a fact I know who a fact
has my my [ __ ] father, not my father,
my cousin. Yes, then you can then No,
then you can [ __ ] give me a um a
phone call to my off to my dad.
>> your dad, please. Then give me a phone
call to my dad. I would love to know.
>> We tried calling the phone.
>> Oh boo hoo, it wasn't me. It wasn't me.
It wasn't me. It wasn't my phone call.
It was not my phone call, was it? Who
I'm a citizen. Oh boo hoo, I'm a
citizen, so I'm allowed to have a phone
call.
I'll sign I'll go back to my car.
That's fine.
Don't touch me.
>> You're not allowed to walk around. I'll
You're not allowed TO WALK I CAN THEN
LET ME GO TO MY THEN LET ME WALK TO MY
CAR. THEN LET ME WALK TO MY CAR. YEAH,
EXACTLY. Then let me Then let me walk to
my car. You're not walking to your car.
So let me No, BECAUSE I I'M A CITIZEN.
Stop walking away.
Stop walking away. I have the right TO
CALL MY
MOM OR DAD, AND YOU GUYS ARE NOT LETTING
ME DO THAT. SO WHICH IS IT? I GO BACK TO
THE CAR, ONE of you walk with me
>> WE'RE JUST WAITING. OR NO. NO. I'LL WALK
BACK TO I'LL WALK BACK TO MY CAR.
[screaming]
ALL RIGHT.
I GOT ALL
YEAH.
YEAH. YEAH, RIGHT IN FRONT OF A CAR.
RIGHT IN FRONT OF A CAR.
HOW YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO ARREST THEM.
THAT'S A dumb ass. Did you go to
training? And I have the right to call
my mom or dad.
>> Absolutely. When we get this issue out
of the way. Thank you.
That sounds good. She's got at least
resisting and smacking.
You want to take my bag out? I don't
know. You're going to want to get
inside. Okay. Let's go get inside.
Stand facing the wall.
I'm going to take the handcuffs off. Put
this hand on your head. Sorry, what?
That wasn't a full sentence for me.
>> to
put this hand on your head. I want to
take the handcuffs off. Sorry, what?
Sorry, what?
Say one more time. I'm sorry, that
wasn't a full sentence.
>> You now face me. Are we clear?
Can you get it? Now put your hand on
your head.
Have a seat. Have a seat out here. Have
a seat.
>> can I actually gracefully turn and sit
down? Lift your hand up. You can put
your arms down. You can put your arms
down. I'm okay because you told me not
to lift them. So what's what Which one
is it?
We just need to take your
handcuffs off.
>> Let go of your hands. Which one is it?
And take your phone out.
>> Take your phone out.
>> Oh, sorry. I can't reach there. So we're
going to have to
>> No. Yeah, I'm not. Oh boo hoo. Sorry.
>> Nope. Aw, then boo hoo.
>> The officer's night with this suspect is
far from over as they call her father to
come pick her up, which will lead to an
entirely new problem for officers.
>> Hello. Hello.
Dad. This is Patrolman Conklin with the
Yeah, this is Katie, and they're not
literally they're literally not reading
me my Miranda rights, nothing. Come to
the I don't even know what police
station they're at. Sir, can we talk to
you, please? If you could come pick her
up, please. She's very intoxicated. I'm
literally not breathalyzed me. Hi.
Hello, sir. Here for Caitlyn. Yes. You
want to come on in?
Hand over. Are you her father or Yeah.
She's adopted. Okay.
So she's under arrest for resisting,
obstruction, and disorderly conduct. I
will let you know that there is an
investigation for assault on a police
officer. Okay. That's being conducted.
Your dad's here. And here's your shoes.
Y'all know you don't need a college
degree, right, for what you do, right?
Okay. You're right. You need a high
school diploma, and I have one.
Thank you. All right, follow me.
No, we'll shut
up.
We'll talk. No,
let's get in the [ __ ] car.
You better have the keys.
Literally 1 minute later, the father and
mother call 911 to report that their
daughter got out of the car and stormed
off down the road, causing the officer
to come out and get her yet again.
>> Where'd she go? To the right or to the
left?
>> She went straight. Straight?
Come here. What? Come here. I'm under
arrest.
>> Yes, you are. You're not free to leave.
Why? You're a danger to yourself.
>> No, I'm not.
>> are. Then breathalyze me. I'm literally
okay. Come here. Come here. You're not
>> No, yes, I am. I'm Stop walking. I'm
literally breathalyze me. I'm okay
to go home. Breathalyze me. I'm okay to
go home.
>> No, you're going to the hospital.
You're going to the hospital. I'm
literally breathalyze ME. I'M OKAY TO GO
HOME. THEY LITERALLY kicked me out of
the car.
>> You're going to get You know
>> What do you want me to say?
>> out and walked away. Cuz they kicked me
out of the car. What do you want me to
say? No, you
>> mad and walked away. I did get out of
the car, which they told me, and I'm
walking myself home.
>> not.
>> Which they told me to do. No, you're
going to the hospital. Then breathalyze
ME. I'M OKAY.
>> ABOUT INTOXICATION. You are a danger to
yourself right now. The way you're
acting is dangerous.
>> What if I have someone to pick me up?
>> No, you're going to the hospital.
>> Then no, because I have someone to pick
me up. BREATHALYZE ME.
>> STOP. BREATHALYZE ME.
I'M OKAY.
>> BREATHALYZE ME. I'M OKAY.
>> BREATHALYZE ME. I'M OKAY. ALL RIGHT,
I'LL send you the ticket in the mail.
STOP.
>> LITERALLY BREATHALYZE ME. I'M
[ __ ] okay.
If they think I'm okay to walk home,
those are my parents. I'm aware.
>> then they think I'm okay to walk home.
>> No, they don't think you're okay.
>> Well, then why would they tell me
goodbye, GET OUT OF THE CAR?
>> came back to the house and called 911.
>> told me to get You're going to the
hospital. They told ME TO GET OUT OF THE
CAR. YOU'RE GOING TO THE HOSPITAL. NO, I
LITERALLY AM BREATHALYZE ME.
>> IT'S NOT ABOUT THE INTOXICATION. It's
your behavior. I don't drink. I smoke
weed.
>> Okay, then.
I I understand.
So.
Stop walking away.
>> No,
COME ON.
LET GO OF ME.
LET GO OF ME.
MOVE.
STOP MOVING.
ALL RIGHT, I'M COMING WITH YOU.
I WOULDN'T LIKE YOU TO BE ON your phone
as well. Especially if we're only
snapping our Instagram by the way, which
you can tell by your eyes.
Your reflection is by the way it's
illegal. And what are you? Just a fat
old person?
Sorry.
Sorry.
That wasn't supposed to be rude like
that.
>> it was. What did you expect it to be?
Yeah.
He's not going to hear the end of that
for the rest of the night now. No, I'm
not.
For the rest of the next shift or the
shift after that.
>> hey, listen. YEAH.
YOU'RE BEING AWFULLY RUDE. OH. OH, NO. I
HAVE a freedom of speech, right? Yeah,
you're just being rude.
>> Oh, so oh, well. I have a freedom of
speech, right?
>> Okay, be respectful. I don't really give
a
I don't give a So.
So I'm not sorry. You're being walked to
go into the hospital.
The suspect, Caitlyn, was charged with
harassment for her first arrest of the
night, and then was additionally charged
with disorderly conduct, obstructing,
[music] and resisting arrest for her
second arrest. She is presumed innocent
unless proven guilty in a court of law.
>> [music]
>> Now, there's a scene in Bluey Unicorse
episode where Chilli's dealing with that
exact kind of energy. Doesn't matter how
calm she is, doesn't matter how she
approaches it, it just keeps going. You
all go on. I've got no ads, toots.
Name? Chilli. Ah, I'm sorry, Silly.
Chilli. Silly, yeah, that's what I said.
She tries patience, tries to reason, she
even tries to redirect it, but nothing
lands. And that's the reality, because
some people don't respond to patience,
they respond to boundaries. Now, look at
this situation, same thing. Calm gets
tested again and again, and eventually
that moment shows up where control isn't
about staying nice anymore, it's about
stepping in, because patience does have
a limit, and if you ignore that limit,
you don't stay in control anymore, you
lose it. So, think about your own life.
Are you dealing with something that just
needs more patience? Are you dealing
with something that's been telling you
for a while it's time to set boundaries?