She has assaulted me seven times before this. >> He grabbed me by the throat, threw me on the bed. I'm upset. I have anxiety. >> Arrest me if you want. He only shows what he wants to. Tomorrow and Christmas Day, I can't see my son. I mentally can't deal with this man. On December 24th, 2024, officers responded to a residence following a report from a man claiming that his baby's mother had visited their son for Christmas, but began causing trouble after drinking and becoming physical. >> Here, please. >> Are you up there? >> I am. I'll come down to you. >> Oh, all right. What seems to be going on to have my Christmas? >> Well, this is actually not his girlfriend. it to the baby mama. >> Uhhuh. >> Um he came home, brought the baby and her because he did not want to keep her from having Christmas with the baby. >> Uhhuh. >> She's been in trouble time after time after time. It's been in jail. She's been drinking. >> Uhhuh. >> And of course when she drinks she gets crazy. And >> it was physical. >> Has there been an assault? >> So she I had my phone recording and she jammed my thumb. She tried to get my phone. She jam my thumb. I got up. She ran at me and I grabbed her and threw her on the bed. She's like, "Oh, you choked me." I was like, "But I got a video. There's no not a single mark on her neck." >> Um, literally was it was it was get away from me. >> Uhhuh. >> Um, she she has assaulted me seven times before this. I have multiple pictures of me like torn up. So, you know, I'm I'm not just saying >> and she does this when she's drinking me. >> Yeah. >> And I told them no alcohol in my house. No marks. >> Yes, there is. Not a single. >> You took me and threw me. >> You charged at me. >> I didn't want to be here. I did not. >> Don't you hear, Vanessa? >> I don't want to be here. As >> you see, there's there's absolutely no marks. >> No marks. >> Yes, there is. >> You choke me. >> But >> she always says things like that. You choke me. You push me. You hurt me. >> Nobody's doing anything to hurt. >> This is not your house. But I'm supposed to sleep. >> And I asked her to come down here and say, "Come out. >> Leave me alone." >> Is she inside? >> Leave me alone. >> I'm guessing came down here, went in there with my >> where my granddaughter is. >> Your hands around my neck. >> Was this in front of the baby or anything? >> No. Go ahead. >> Thank god the baby was asleep. >> Okay. >> I actually left earlier because she was raising so much help after she started drinking. I was like, "You know what? I'm just going to get out of here for a while. And I'm just not Max. And as soon as I got Max outside, what is the temperature? >> I didn't kick you out. >> You did. >> Are you sitting right here right now? >> Hold on. Hold on. Now we're on video. So >> So you want to charger? >> I said all I care. >> I said all I care. >> I'll give the show what I want. >> Oh, you want a charger or anything? >> What you do back? >> So I don't know if I'm almost trespasser. See that? So that's her her attacking me. I said she may have stopped the recording. What you did >> all you do best. >> That's up. Dude, you want to charge her so we can get out of here tonight? >> Give me a minute. Let me see where she even went. >> Mom, >> is that her in here? >> Is she in this room? >> No, she's not in there. >> I heard something in this room. >> Oh, no. There's two people in sleeping in there. Oh, >> what? >> Hey, Vanessa didn't come in there, did she? >> All right. Sorry. She She has bipolar one, so she goes into these medic rage fits. >> Looks like she asleep. >> You want to talk, Vanessa? >> That That's who this is. You want to talk? >> What do you want? Were you invited over here to this to this house? >> The the police officers right here. >> Sorry, there's dogs. We're not trying to let them out. Yes, officer. >> I'm trying to figure out what's going on. >> He grabbed me by the throat, threw me on the bed. Of course, he has no video of that. So, I came down here by his brother. Um, his brother allowed me to stay down here and just lay on his couch and go to sleep to get away from him. That's it. >> I don't want any problems. >> I'm sorry, huh? I didn't mean to knock elbow off. >> You're fine. >> This is my house. I'm That's why I'm down here. >> Okay. So, >> even though that door sealed it, it's one residence. >> So, h how did you get here in the first place? >> Because of him. The only way I can be with my 10-month-old son is because of plans he made without asking me. I'm just here to be with my baby. That's it. >> Okay. And have you been drinking tonight? >> No, sir. I'm upset. I have anxiety. Here he goes again, forcing me to do this. >> Can I carry your breath for? >> I'm asking to just be left alone. I'm literally for Christmas doing what he wants, abiding by his rules, just to be with my son. I said I've seen some seen some videos that he's had and >> Yeah, but he doesn't show you all of them. That's what he does. He shows clips. >> Well, you said that he grabbed you by the throat. Okay. I don't see any marks on you. Okay. But one of the videos is clearly of you assaulting him. >> That's all he shows. That's what he does every time. >> Well, I'm just trying to figure out the the whole picture. That's why I'm here is talk with both parties. >> Arrest me if you want. He only shows what he wants to. He He never tells a full full truth. So >> I told him I grabbed your thy on the bed as you charged at me. I absolutely told him that. >> I didn't charge at you, Dan. Come on. You're ridiculous. >> You know, I would have had on video, but you threw my phone through it. >> Yeah, of course. You don't have audio. Of course, right? >> Yeah, >> cuz you threw my phone. >> Okay. >> The audio is only whatever you want to do. You want to take me out of here, please. I'm not going to argue. I told you what would happen to me. man. >> I came to talk to both of you. It's up to him if he wants to charge you or not. >> Or up to mom, >> right? He's um his mom is going to >> stick up for her son. Of course. >> Well, is there anywhere you can go tonight? >> I am only I live hours away. I'm only down here because he made plans for Christmas. Um, he gave me no option but to come down here if I wanted to see my 10-month old son and spend Christmas with him. >> And why do I have custody of him? >> You don't. >> Is there any court paper condition? >> Pre-trial condition. Do you have any of that paperwork? >> Unfortunately, no. I have to go to court. It's for whatever reason like they on the third. >> When do you have >> um >> No, not the third. >> I have all of it at home. It doesn't matter. >> How convenient. I can't keep up with all of your your crowd dates. I really can't. >> She used to stay down here. His brother allowed me to stay down here, watch TV, and just go to sleep. >> As I told you, I told her to come down here and go down here and sleep down here on the couch. >> Mhm. >> There's a a big humongous couch over there. There's plenty of room for sleep, blankets. And >> you peed in the trash can over there, Vanessa. >> Whatever you say, >> Chris called us and said, "You're peeing in the trash can." Okay, >> I just want you to lay down somewhere and sweep it off. >> And that's why the rest of the stairs. >> I'll leave it up to you all. Whatever you want me to do. >> I say it's clear video evidence of an assault. >> The only this portion he wants to show, that's what he does. >> I literally explained to him exactly what happened. >> The only whatever you want to tell, that's what you do. I'm allowed to stay down here. I just like to watch TV and get the hell away from you. only one. Please stop. I am talking. >> Stop. >> This is my house. If you want to stay here, fine. Go in there and lay down and leave the rest of us alone. >> That's what I was doing. >> Okay, that works with you all. >> Yep. As long as she stays over here. >> But I'd like to see my 10-month old asleep right now. >> Hey, Dan told me >> tomorrow and Christmas Day. I can't see my son. If you go to jail, you can't. No, there's not going to be you in jail because he wants to trying to put you in jail. >> You know what, Charger? >> Dad is trying. You don't get it. >> I just want my baby. That's why I'm here. >> Hey, did you ever consider my family, my mom, my dad, my >> my family never even met my son because >> he wouldn't allow it. She's mentally ill and it's it's >> I'll get a written statement from you >> and we'll go from there. Okay. >> Okay. >> Is that what you want? >> Do what you want. >> Is that what you want? >> Do what you want, Dan. I just I told you over and over. I just want my son. That's all. I want to spend his first Christmas with him. You want to make my life hell. >> Alcohol is more important just like it was when you were pregnant. Alcohol was more important then. >> Sure. Say whatever you want. I'm done fighting you. I'm done fighting you. I'm done. I'm tired. Whatever you want to do to me, whatever you want to say, I'm just I'm tired. >> I'll go get a note. I'll be right back. >> You want to put me in jail? Oh, she gets cold air out. >> Yes, >> I'm tired. >> It's chilly down here. >> Hey, talk to both my therapists. >> Yeah, >> they have statements from two professional therapists. I'm done fighting. Do whatever you want. I give up. I'm just tired of your Go ahead and make a statement. I'm tired. >> I don't care taking care of you. >> I'm tired. Yeah, I'm tired. Do whatever you want. I'm [ __ ] tired. >> I'm tired. I'm okay. Say what you want. I'm tired. I'm tired. Sit down. >> I'm exhausted, Dan. >> So stop. Just stop. fighting for you could have came here and had a good Christmas. >> You made the decision. >> I wanted to take my son to meet my family for the first time. >> Well, you're not allowed to take him. >> I had >> for good reason. >> Yes, sir. Yes, I would. >> I'm sorry. Okay. >> Of course. I >> It's what you want. Go ahead. Write what you want. >> There's also no for Okay. Put me in jail between you two. >> Okay, Dan. Okay. Back to you. >> You have an ID on you. That's what you want. >> Damn. >> Do you have an idea? Hold on. >> Please. >> That's what you want. >> You think that's what I want? >> It's what you're doing. It's what you've done. I'll give up. Put me in jail. I'm >> tired of fighting you. I don't want to fight you. >> I'll get some names. >> I want right now. >> I'll get some names. >> What's your Just stop. >> What do you want, Vanessa? >> You literally were in bed. You could have gone to sleep. >> What do you want, Dan? You want to put me in jail and take my son? That's okay. Please stop talking to me. >> Whoa. Hang on. >> I'm asking him to please Vanessa. Listen to me. >> I'm asking him to please stop talking to me. >> Listen to me. Okay. What's your date of birth? >> 1287. >> So, right now, we're going to stay separated. So, >> I very far away. I came down here with him. So, >> separated. Listen to me at the moment. Okay. Just go take a seat in there again. Okay. and then we'll get everything straightened out. Okay? >> Cuz I'm not going to listen to arguing all night. >> When I opened the door, she rubbed it open and refused to leave and kept demanding all of her stuff. And I said I wasn't going to let her go upstairs until she had uh and get her stuff until she went outside. And we just sit there as a stalemate for 10 minutes going back and forth. Um >> my dogs are going crazy. >> Is she over there? >> My dogs are going great. Yeah, >> she's over there. >> Yeah. >> You can shut the door for right now. I'll be in a second. >> I just thought went back over there. Last thing I want to do is have problems on Christmas. >> That's all right. I'm about to take care of them. Get a written statement from him. She's going to get charged with violation of protective order and assault. >> Roffus outside. >> Roffus, >> you got a jacket. >> You got shoes. >> Where's your shoes at? >> Upstairs. >> With my work laptop. I just >> Okay, we'll get it. Don't worry. We'll get it. I really just need my laptop in my suitcase. >> Okay. Well, here's what's going to happen. Okay. You are under arrest. >> For what? >> Assault and violation protect. >> What assault? >> The assault that you hit him when he had the phone. Okay. >> He admitted to you he choked me and threw me on the bed. So, >> he did not say he choked you. >> Huh? >> He did not say he choked you. He said he moved you out of the way. No, he told me he admitted to you he grabbed me by the throat and threw me on the bed. >> He did not. >> Can I help you? >> Hey, you told me you told the officer you grabbed me by the throat and threw me on the bed. He's telling me you didn't say that. >> I said you rushed at me. >> I grabbed you. >> I didn't rush at you in what space did you grab me by the throat and throw me on the bed? >> Yes or no? >> Vanessa, >> did you rush at me? >> I grabbed you and threw you on the bed. Vanessa, >> did you grab me by the throat? >> Vanessa, >> listen. I just need my laptop. I have an appointment at 9 in the morning. >> Look. Okay, >> officer. >> Well, I'm telling you what's happening right now. Okay, you are under arrest. Okay, I told you. >> I just asked for my stuff. That's it. >> I literally just asked for my stuff. I have video. There was no confrontation. I just wanted my belongings. I didn't say a second confrontation happened. Okay. >> So why am I under arrest? >> I was called down here for the second time because 30 minutes. Okay. >> I just wanted my stuff. That's all. I don't want >> I don't care. I don't care. We are not going to argue about this. >> Okay. >> We are not going to argue about this. That can be argued in court. And if you want to charge him, >> you can. You just have to go for a magistrate. Okay. But right now, we are going to go for a magistrate. All right. Get your jacket on. We're gonna get your shoes and you're coming with me. >> Shoes are and everything's upstairs. I just wanted my stuff. Please, please. I just really want my stuff. >> We're gonna get it. Okay. Get up. >> He didn't even pull you guys. His mom did. >> I really just wanted my stuff. >> Okay. Well, go ahead and put your jacket on. >> Yeah, it's upstairs. >> Is that not your jacket? >> No, my jacket is Okay. >> Literally everything I own is upstairs. >> It's cold. I have no shoes or jacket. >> You walked out there earlier. We're going across. You brought my suitcase out. >> We're going across. Okay. Just step right in there. Do you have her shoes and her jacket >> and my work laptop? >> It's all in there. >> No, it's not. >> Missing is the shoes. Did Jack >> Dan? It's not. Everything's upstairs. Kathy, please stop. >> He just flipped it. >> Hey. Hey. Your son's 40ome years old. Please stop. Dan, not my shoes and my jacket and my work laptop. That's it. >> Process. So, this is part of the the buffers. She She cannot process what she's being told right now. >> Whatever you Dan's a broken arm the left side. So >> I just want my stuff. >> Look confrontation. You can hurt me all you want. I'm the one getting arrested. I just want my stuff. That's it. >> I'll go try to find shoes, but other than that, your stuff is sitting outside. Can you copy? >> Cuz you just put it out. My suitcase. Oh my. >> I mentally can't deal with this man. Okay. >> Walk over here. Right in the middle. We're going to wait on shoes. >> Is there any way I can at least have a moment to switch this off my left shoulder? >> My I swear officer, go upstairs. My My laptop bag is upstairs. That's That's >> That's what I mean by she can't >> I'll take that. No. Give it to me. Gave it to me. >> I didn't. >> No. >> No. You just put my suitcase outside before you came to make me look crazy. He wouldn't give it to me before. I have the video on my phone. >> Yes, I'll put it outside before put on your sheet real quick. >> I have an appointment um with intensive outpatient care at 9:00 a.m. I really need my work laptop. >> I'll check to see. >> It's in a gray bag. >> It's in a gray bag. >> The gray bag sitting out there. It's right beside the >> Is that it? Okay. >> I don't understand why he couldn't give it. Just give it to me. I don't understand why I had to be arrested before I got my stuff. >> Lay down your stuff. >> Hold on. That's You said you had a video, too. We'll watch it. >> I do. >> Okay. >> Step back over there and we're going to look in here. See if we can find you a jacket. So, you can put a jacket on. >> I don't understand why I had to get arrested before I got my stuff. That's literally keep showing the police officers. All I kept asking for was my stuff. >> So, again, Kathy, tell me, why did the police have to get involved before I got my stuff? >> Why? Because >> I just wanted my stuff. I have an appointment at 9:00 a.m. >> And I told you go back next door. >> Dan told me step outside. >> And what happened last time? I did. He locked me out. >> You were afraid to go in the other house. >> Why? I needed my stuff. I don't trust you. Why couldn't you just bring my stuff down? >> You just wanted to see me get arrested. >> Is this your jacket? >> Yes. >> Okay. Actually, you open up my >> Hold on. Can you check my purse for my sar keys cuz he stole them before? So, these are my medications. Can I bring them with me? >> Yes, you were going to bring all this. Is that it? >> Yes. >> You just literally wanted my stuff. >> Hey, you got what you want. You got my kid. >> Congratulations, Dan. I literally just wanted my stuff. >> I'll get this. I hope Daniel loves daddy. >> That'll work. >> Daniel's daddy and me. I don't want >> I just want you to do me. >> That'll work. If you want to go ahead and take her to the office. >> Yeah. >> Congratulations. Tell my son you're both >> Hang on. Hang on. Hang on. >> Going to send me to house. I mean, but you can see the mental illness, right? >> Yeah. >> Unfortunately, state of Virginia, uh, the law comes comes before mental illness. So, I know how this works and you know it'll be a charge. I know the charge. >> Well, the only time it's going to be the mental illness if she says she's going to herself, she going to hurt others. >> That's the only time they do anything. >> We know, >> which is wild. >> It's it's >> makes no sense. >> Um, but shut up. >> I completely understand. It's a messed up system. This gets sent to our domestic violence officer. So, he'll most likely be in contact you whenever he gets back, which he's going to be out of the office until like the 27th. I will be out here. So, I I don't know how this is going to work. >> They'll just talk to you over the phone. >> No, like with with her cuz she 400 miles from home. Uh so, while she has a license, it's restricted license uh due to a DUI. So, she can't rent a car and drive home. >> I don't know. >> No, I'm telling you, she can't rent a car and drive home cuz she has to have a breathalyzer. >> No. >> And you know, no car rental place will give her a car. She's going to have to figure that out. Actions bring consequences. I dude told her somebody's house and I I I mean I was at the magistrate just 5 days ago uh back home >> talking to him and he's like she sounds incredibly manipulative and it sounds like you've done a lot to help her and tried to do everything you could. He's like you shouldn't feel bad anymore cuz >> he's like you've done everything you can like it gets to a point. >> The only time they can get help is when they want to get it themselves. >> Thank you again for coming out. You're all welcome.