I do this. >> You have a weapon inside there? >> Absolutely. >> What kind of weapon do you have in there? >> We have three. >> Okay. Go ahead. >> My husband's a cop. My husband's a cop. My husband's a cop. My husband's a cop. I'll make sure you run. I'lling ruin. >> I'll My husband's a cop. I make sure I'll ruin you. God c. >> It seemed like all of her importance relied on the fact that her husband was a cop. >> Yeah, my husband's a cop. >> May 5th, 2023. Summer Police Department. A traffic stop that started simple turned into a masterclass of what not to do when you see those blue lights. The question tonight, can dropping your spouse's badge number save you from a DWI arrest? Spoiler, it cannot. Let me set this up. Sergeant Curley pulls over a Jeep for weaving between lanes. Before he even gets to the window, he has reasonable suspicion under Terry versus Ohio. Erratic driving gives him the right to investigate. But here is where it gets interesting. The driver's husband is a cop, and she thinks that matters. >> This rich woman is the epitome of entitlement. You'll soon see why. >> Hi, Sergeant Curly. the police car. You're being recorded. How are you doing? >> Great. How are you? >> What's going on today? Why are you all over the roadway in the other lane of travel? >> Okay, but you're in that lane of travel back there. >> Um, but when it comes to this I've known. >> Okay. Can you go ahead and shove me? Do you have a driver's license? >> I do. >> Do you have a driver's license? >> I do. >> Can I see it, please? >> Can I see your driver's license? >> I do. >> Is this a friend of yours over there? >> Okay. >> Are you a police officer? >> What? >> Yeah. >> Okay. Have you been drinking alcoholic beverages tonight, man? Have you been drinking alcoholic bever? Are you reasoning pretty man this morning? >> Any reason pretty slow reaction to things? >> Can you go ahead and step off the car? >> I will not. >> You will not. >> Okay, that's fine. I'm going to wait for another unit and we'll have a conversation. Okay. >> Yes, sir. >> Okay. Do you have an insurance registration for the vehicle? >> I do. >> Can you get those for me, please? There's no weapons inside, correct? >> I do. >> You have a weapon inside there? >> Absolutely. >> What kind of weapon do you have in there? I have three. >> Okay. Why don't you go ahead and keep away from that for? >> Yeah. Conceal weapons? >> Are you a police officer? >> No, not. >> You're not? Okay. >> Good. >> All right, ma'am. I'm going to place you under arrest for DUI. Go ahead and step out of the car for me. Please step out of the car for me, please. >> You're being You're under arrest. >> What do you want? >> You're under arrest. Step out of the car for me. >> Whatever you want. >> You're under arrest. Step out of the car for me. >> Whatever you want, sir. Go ahead and step out of the car for me now. >> You step me out of the car. >> Are you going to come out of the car on your own? >> No. Absolutely not. >> Absolutely not. >> And you know it. >> The contact phase tells you everything. She is repeating his questions back to him before answering. That cognitive delay officers are trained to spot it. It is a classic impairment indicator. When he asks about alcohol, her first response is not yes or no. It is just the word man. That is not how sober people answer direct questions. Now, here is the legal turning point. He asks her to step out of the vehicle. She refuses flat out. Under Pennsylvania versus Mims from 1977, an officer conducting a lawful traffic stop can order you out of the car. Period. No additional justification needed beyond the stop itself. Her refusal has zero legal foundation. Human thinking says, "Why not just comply and sort it out later?" But here is the counterargument people make. If I get out, I am admitting guilt wrong. Mim specifically addresses this. The Supreme Court said officer safety trumps your inconvenience. Getting out of the car is not an admission of anything. It is compliance with lawful authority. She discloses a 380 caliber handgun in the vehicle loaded one in the chamber. that firearm disclosure changes everything from a tactical standpoint. It justifies every safety measure. The sergeant takes from this point forward, officer safety is not just policy. It is constitutional law under Graham versus Connor. Step out of the car for a minute now. >> Thank you. Careful. Place your hands behind your back for me. >> Jesse, >> I'm sure you're aware you have the right to remain silently. Anything you say can be used against you in court law. You have the right this time. Talk to your lawyer and have with you while I'm grateful. >> You understand those those explain already asked for attorney, so I'm not going to ask you any further questions. >> Just keep walking, man. Towards my car back here. >> Really? >> Towards my car. Keep walking. that thing. >> Keep walking. >> Don't >> touch me like that. >> Get in the car. >> Sit in the car. >> Yeah. I love you. You're going to suck. >> He is her husband. And before they stopped their vehicles, he had shown the officer his middle fingers. >> Yeah. Okay. Just so you're aware. >> Any reason why you were stepped out of your vehicle on Main Street and getting out of your vehicle and putting your fingers up in the air? everybody to see. >> Any reason for that? >> Yeah. No. Texting your vehicle in in her L. >> I just had to give her her stuff. >> Okay. >> But that was it. >> The other side of it is cuz I'm making a gesture. Do you have anything else you need? >> No. Okay. Thank you. >> Thank you. >> But he's got that main street down there. Put some fingers up in the arm. >> He put us in our own pipel. >> Good. Yeah. Let's see how you parents in our own pets. >> You urinate back here? >> Yeah. Where's my husband? >> Your husband's not here. Okay. >> Oh my god. Go yourself over here for me. >> Good. Good. I can't wait. >> Follow me inside. >> Good. Oh my god. My husband to do this. I can't wait for it. Go to the uh left here. >> You can just sit this small chair over here. >> Good. >> Right here for me. >> No. >> Just need you to sit down. >> I love you. What's your name? >> My name is Officer Arson. >> Good. >> I'm just trying to help you. Okay. >> I will love you in the end. >> Stand up. I'm sorry. >> Just rec tight. >> It hurts. >> I can do two. I thought that's easier. >> Better. Oh my god. >> Please don't jump out of the cuffs. Okay. here. >> Can you just take a seat back for me? Okay. >> Yeah. I'm sorry. [clears throat] >> Is that my husband? >> Can you sit back down for me? >> I'm my husband. >> Do you hear me, ma'am? >> Is >> Can you sit back down for me? >> But my husband, if you're not going to cooperate, you're going to go in the room. Okay. Sit back down on the chair for me. >> Are you going to sit back down? >> No. I need to drink. >> No, I can't do it. Please. >> Stop it. >> Put your hand behind your back right now. >> Put your hands behind your back. >> Please stop. [laughter] >> HELP ME. HELP ME. STOP. I'm not doing anything here. >> Put your hands behind your back. >> STOP IT. PUT YOUR HANDS BEHIND YOUR BACK. >> STOP. >> STOP RESISTING. PUT YOUR hands >> Put your HANDS BEHIND YOUR BACK. PUT YOUR HEAD [screaming] BEHIND your back. >> STOP. You're wrong. YOU'RE WRONG. YOU'RE WRONG. YOU'RE GOING TO KILL IT. YOU'RE WRONG. You're wrong. >> Please. >> The arrest announcement is clear and unambiguous. Driving while intoxicated. Step out of the car. She asks, "What do you want?" six different times. He tells her six different times. Each refusal is building her legal hole deeper. Failure to comply with a lawful order during a traffic stop, that is a separate chargeable offense in most jurisdictions. Physical removal happens. The force used is minimal. Guiding hands, controlled movements, no take down. Under Graham, we judge force by objective reasonableness. Was this reasonable given her repeated refusals? Absolutely. A defense attorney could argue escalation, but that argument dies when you watch the timeline. He gave her every opportunity to comply. Miranda administration starts while she is walking to the car. She interrupts him. She is agitated. She is likely intoxicated. Here is the legal question that matters. Were these warnings effectively communicated? He reads them correctly, but comprehension is a different issue. A good defense attorney will challenge whether she could truly understand her rights in that moment. The husband shows up before the stop. He gave the officers the middle finger from his vehicle. That is protected speech under City of Houston versus Hill. You can flip off a cop. It is rude. It is stupid, but it is constitutional. However, it does not create goodwill. And goodwill is what professional courtesy runs on. He burned that bridge before this even started. She keeps saying my husband is a police officer like it is a magic phrase. Let me be direct about this professional courtesy. The practice of cutting breaks to law enforcement families is not law. It is culture and it is corrosive culture. The law applies equally or it applies to no one. She fundamentally misunderstands how the system works. Human thinking here. Maybe the sergeant could have extended that courtesy. Counterargument. He has probable cause for DWI. She has a loaded weapon. She has refused lawful orders and she is actively resisting. At what point does courtesy become obstruction of justice? The answer is right about here. >> I'll kill you. I'll kill you. I'LL KILL YOU. I'LL kill you. I'll kill you. I'll find a way. I'll kill you. You piece of >> Yeah. >> Yeah. My husband's [laughter] a cop. My husband's a cop. My husband's a cop. I'll make sure you run. I'lling ruin you. >> I'll My husband's a cop. I make sure I'll ruin you. You cop. >> It seemed like all of her importance relied on the fact that her husband was a cop. >> Yeah, my husband's a cop. [clears throat] You with the wrong Mexican. Yeah, you let loose. Let loose now. You I'll ruin your entire life. I'll ruin your mother. Get the I'm a cop's wife. >> I'M A COP'S WIFE. I'M a cop's wife. How dare you touch me? >> Whmer, can you grab Hobble? >> Look at me up. Look me up. >> No. No. No. >> I swear to God. You lifting me up on the cops. You >> the cops of life. I'm the cops of life. You ruin your life. >> Walk on this one. Just go for Yeah. >> No. No. You better help me. You better help me. Oh my god. Get you. You. Let me let go. Let me let go. Let me let go. It hurts. I didn't do anything. [laughter] We can get her out. Let's get her seated other on your side. Keep your legs out in front of you. And then once they were up, >> oh my god, >> please just just sit down. Okay. [laughter] Thank God. Thank God. Thank God. Thank God. >> Just keep seated. Okay. Just keep seated. >> They're going to kill me. >> You're okay. Okay. Do you wish to talk to an attorney? >> Absolutely. >> Okay. As soon as you get to jail, you can talk to an attorney. Okay. >> You're goddamn right. >> All right. Perfect. We're going to get you medical cleared. You'll be f then you can go up to jail. >> Hi. >> How are you going? >> Let's go check out. Okay. Operate with them, please. >> What' you do to your head? >> What did you do to it? >> I didn't touch you. So, >> you want to know? Let's go check out >> what you guys do. >> That's We're just asking you because we don't know how you feel. So, I'm asking >> I'm asking you if you hurt anymore. >> It hurts my wrist. >> Your wrist. >> I can't do it. You hurt anymore? I've got comfortable tendons. I can't I can't I can't do my >> Can I I'm going to adjust your shirt. Okay. Is that okay? But I can't do my wrist. My It hurts >> there. Get you'll cover it up a little better. >> Now we were waiting. >> We're Americans here. >> Take a look at your hurts. >> I know it's going to squeeze, but if you arm, it won't hurt so bad. Okay. One of the officers found a loaded gun in the woman's Jeep. >> All right. Glock pistol. It is a 380 Glock 42 show number Adam Young Paul 785. It has a fully loaded magazine, six round magazine. And it has one in the chamber. This one was removed from the chamber. Six full magazine. Firearm secured. For safety really quick, >> the firearm gets inventoried. Glock 42 380 caliber. Six rounds in the magazine. One in the chamber. That weapon was accessible during the entire initial contact. Every officer safety protocol. The sergeant followed the delayed approach, the backup call, the careful commands, all of it justified by this discovery. She refuses the breathalyzer. That is her right, but it comes with automatic administrative penalties in most states. License suspension, usually 6 months to a year, regardless of whether the criminal charges stick. People think refusing the test helps them beat the case. Sometimes it does. More often it just adds another penalty you cannot fight. Medical assessment happens. Paramedics check for head injury. She gives mixed signals about consent. Here is why this documentation matters. If she later claims excessive force caused injury, this medical evaluation becomes exhibit A for the defense. No significant trauma found. Extensions in her hair, not scalp injury, everything documented, everything protected. Let me assess the sergeant's performance. His patience is remarkable. Six verbal commands before physical contact. Miranda administered even though she is combative. Firearms secured properly. Medical care offered and refusal documented. The only weak point and it is minor is weather. Those Miranda warnings were truly comprehended given her state. But technically he did everything right. Now her performance. She took a bad situation and made it catastrophic. The DW I might have been fought in court. The refusal to exit added charges. The physical resistance added more. The verbal abuse throughout. More evidence of intoxication and poor judgment. By the end, she is facing assault on an officer. DWI, she built that outcome herself. The husband's role deserves mention. Flipping off cops before a traffic stop shows judgment issues. Not intervening when his wife is escalating shows either wisdom or cowardice. Depending on your perspective, he knew she was in the wrong. He knew professional courtesy would not apply here. He stayed out of it. Smart legal move. Terrible marriage moment. Final charge. Assault and DWI. The assault likely comes from her physical resistance during the arrest. Some jurisdictions charge that as battery on a law enforcement officer, which carries enhanced penalties. What started as a traffic stop for weaving turned into multiple felonies. Every decision she made after that initial refusal compounded the damage. Lesson one, comply now, contest later. Pennsylvania versus Mims, a settled law. When an officer orders you out during a lawful stop, you get out. Fighting that order on the roadside gets you exactly nowhere except additional charges. Your remedy is the courtroom, not the street. Save the legal arguments for your attorney, not the resting officer. Lesson two, professional courtesy is not a legal defense. If you are the family member of law enforcement, understand this. Your connection creates expectations but zero legal protection. The officer who stops you still has a job to do. Invoking your spouse's profession might work and some departments with some officers for minor violations. For DWI with a loaded weapon and active resistance, it will never work. Lesson three, know your rights, but also know the cost of exercising them. You can refuse field sobriety tests. You can refuse a breathalyzer, but those refusals trigger automatic administrative penalties that bypass the criminal court entirely. The DMV does not care about reasonable doubt. They care about refusal your license gets. Suspend it either way. Choose your battles with that knowledge in hand. The law does not bend for badges, family connections, or emotional appeals. It applies based on probable cause, reasonable suspicion, and objective evidence. Sergeant Curley had all three. She had none. The outcome was inevitable from the moment she said, "I will not." Everything after that was just documentation of poor choices under pressure. >> You have extensions in. Yeah. >> Okay. I'm not going to mess with them. I'm just want to make sure that maybe that's >> what's going on. It does look like it's going to come from there, but I don't see like any scalp like split or anything. Not that I can tell. >> No, I don't. >> Good. I'm going to trauma in my extensions. I am excited about that. Next subject. >> We don't have to check you out if you don't want us to. >> I don't want to let anymore. >> Can we look at it? >> Can we Can we keep kind of assessing you or are you not wanting to >> Okay. Can you just keep your head real still just so we can shine a light and make sure that everything looks okay? >> No, she's struggling with the officer. My husband My husband's a police officer. Don't yourselves He's going to talk. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. We're not police officers. >> Yeah. Do it police. I'm an officer. So guy, he's being double sorry double [ __ ] >> Are you feeling any pain besides you? >> No, I'm not. I'm not in Nobody listens to me. Not even a cop. >> Good. Good. He's one of you guys and he's a This is crazy. Oh, I'm apparently I'm handcuffed. So, >> yeah. >> Yeah. You're so >> You want your glasses up? >> Just do. Yeah. You do that? >> Yeah. Is that better? >> Good. >> Oh, you know what? Good. >> Let me help you. It's >> not on your ear. That's why. >> Yeah. Is that better? >> I will. Give it to me. >> Give it. Yeah. But it's like it's not working. >> [laughter] >> So, Amber, you don't want to go to the hospital with us. We're just going to have you acknowledge that you don't want to go. Um, we're just >> We're just going to call our doctor. >> E R A K E. Yes, sir. >> Last name. Okay. [laughter] >> I'm going to cry. I can't see you. You're killing me. I love you. You're literally I can't cry. I'll fall down the control. Okay. >> Small steps. >> You know what? Just keep walking. Okay. >> Oh my god. No. It's right here in the car. [laughter] Okay. [clears throat] This is so bad. Bad. >> Watch your step. Watch your step. Don't fall. >> Just take a seat back in here. >> So bad. >> You want to stay there? I'll pull the seat belts over. >> Oh, this sucks. I know it. I've been there. Oh my god. At least have some socks on. >> I'll give you socks, man. >> Baby, my feet I get cold. Oh, look at that. Oh, Lord. Oh, Lord. All right. No. Did you kiss me? >> Thank you, ma'am. Oh, no. I'll roll the window down. Jesse, roll it. The windows down. I need a break. I MADE IT. ROLL THE WINDOW DOWN. >> SHE WAS CHARGED WITH assault and DUI. YouTube thinks you'll love the video on screen. Click to watch now. >> If there is a case you think deserves this kind of analysis. Let us know in the comments. The Constitution does not enforce itself. That is what these cases are for. Thanks for watching.